Self-deception is the act of fooling oneself into believing something that is not true. It is a common human tendency to deceive oneself, often unknowingly. Self-deception can take many forms, from minor exaggerations to outright delusions. It can be a defense mechanism to protect oneself from ...
Date Posted: April 24, 2023
Categories: Adult psychological development, Emotional Abuse, Family of Origin ...
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People feel emptiness. Unrelieved, they resort to something outside of themselves.Something external like alcohol. Drugs. Food. Sex. Gambling. Shopping. Or, relationships, just to name a few.Pablo was a severely abused, unloved child. When he became an adult, he tried to fill the ...
Jan 5
Categories: Addictions, Depression, Emotional Abuse
GOWe have a lot of tired people nowadays.With Coronavirus, it’s painful “honest” tiredness from long or tedious quarantine or frontline work for a great many who serve.Tiredness can be of two kinds: physical and psychological.Physical: characterizing those who got sick or have medical problems like pre-existing conditions or ...
May 20
Categories: Caregiver Issues / Stress, Coping with Medical Problems, Emotional ...
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The truth is, toxic people are a part of life.They’re everywhere - our neighborhoods, offices, governments, hospitals, schools, and sadly, often right among our family members, relatives and friends.A number of qualities characterize them and their typical toxic pattern of attacking or ...
Dec 30
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Bullying, Emotional Abuse
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Humans are creatures of habit. Habits are either good or bad. They can be constructive or destructive, nurturing or not, of your personal growth.Once your habits have been developed, they naturally turn autopilot. You just think, feel, or do them even without noticing or being aware of them.
Oct 18
Categories: Addictions, Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Emotional Abuse
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Pamela said that she didn’t want to lose her husband and hurt their children. And so she found her self getting too angry.
Sep 20
Categories: Anger Management, Attachment Issues, Emotional Abuse
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I met Donna, a woman in her 70s. She was Mom to one of my clients, Tess, who suffered from severe depression and alcoholism.
Aug 21
Categories: Emotional Abuse, Family Problems, Personality problems
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In a certain sense, all of us are born "narcissists." We each carry remnants of our infancy or childhood narcissism. Nothing is as real to us as we feel like the center of the world.
Aug 7
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse, Family Problems
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You take care of a loved one. Or, your work involves helping others. The fact that you want to make a difference in other people's lives is noble.But here's plain truth: you won't always be able to help everyone. You can care but you can't carry people. Some resist change. Some are ...
Jun 28
Categories: Caregiver Issues / Stress, Emotional Abuse, Family Problems
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“I’m a fraud! After being a CEO of this food company and earning millions, I don’t think it’s my talent. I’m just lucky. I didn’t do it,” said Paul during one of our teary-eyed sessions.
Jun 4
Categories: Emotional Abuse, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Mindfulness
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Dina seemed incapable of receiving compliments. In our “chit chat” during session, after I’d affirmed her accomplishments and good looks, she started avoiding eye contact by staring at the floor or holding her self tightly.
Feb 17
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Depression, Emotional Abuse
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Every human being is designed to love and be loved. Things are designed to be used.A big reason why much in our relationships are in chaos is because we use people and things are ones loved by us.I’ve once a married couple in therapy that lasted for about a year. Both of them came from very ...
May 11
Categories: Emotional Abuse, Love addiction, Relationships & Marriage
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Forgiveness and trust are two totally different things. Neither one is dependent on the other.Forgiveness of debt is helpful as a therapeutic tool. It's been effectively used for treating a variety of clinical disorders. These include specific conditions such as mood disorders, impulse control ...
Nov 18
Categories: Emotional Abuse, Forgiveness, Trust Issues
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It took a while. But Helen was finally able to let go of her sexually addicted, unfaithful, and abusive boyfriend. To help Helen with her growing depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, I got her in touch with reality and to see what really is. She finally realized that she was victimized by a ...
Jun 12
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse, Personality problems
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Feelings are a crucial part of the inner life. When one is psychologically disturbed or traumatized, feelings become vulnerable. A person may lose touch of the reality of his feelings. He can be alienated from his feelings.Yet these feelings don't go away. They continue to appear or surface. ...
Apr 27
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse
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I’m reminded of one of Dr. Sigmund Freud’s psychodynamic concepts, “ego defenses.” Ego defenses are inhibiting internal mechanisms that prevent us from “knowing” early emotional pain through rationalizing, analyzing, explaining away, minimizing, ...
Apr 23
Categories: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Intelligence
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Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at www.drsubida.com.
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo O. Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines
