Betrayed and Blindsided: How to Heal and Trust Again

Eric felt his legs buckle. He was in shock. Discovering that his wife of twelve years, Misty, had been leading a double life left him reeling. She had another relationship and hobbies he was entirely unaware of. He had believed he knew her intimately. With this revelation, Eric began to question ...

Aug 23

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Why divorce feels traumatic and what you can do about it

Written by Monica Borschel, PhD and Christopher Meyer, Family Law PractitionerDivorce carries a lot of grief with it. There is a possible loss of time with your children, your partner, parts of your identity, and your possessions. On top of the grief, there can be some trauma. The trauma can be ...

Aug 1

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My Child is Resisting Me As A Parent. What Can I Do?

Children resist their parents for many reasons. Sometimes they might feel like they need to protect the other parent; they are overly stressed, rebellious, feel abandoned, or ashamed. Sometimes one parent will actively work to turn the child against the other parent.When a child’s separation ...

Jul 26

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The Collateral Damage of Parental Alienation

Written by Monica Borschel, Ph.D. and Charles Kronzek, Michigan Trial AttorneyParental alienation is the deliberate or accidental turning of your children against the other parent. Deliberate alienation is badmouthing the other parent, family, ethnicity, culture, or religion. Part of the alienation ...

Jun 6

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How to start getting comfortable with saying no

Saying no and setting boundaries can be uncomfortable. You might have had experiences where saying no leads to revenge, punishment, or rejection. Having had too many of these experiences might make you anxious when having difficult conversations. In addition, you might be afraid of conflict because ...

May 9

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Domestic Violence – Psychologist and Prosecutor for Victims and ...

Written by Monica Borschel, Ph.D. and Special Private Prosecutor for victims and family law attorney Brian Faucett.A yearly estimate of ten million ...

Apr 3

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Here’s How to Hold Space for Others’ Emotions

Have you ever felt drained after a conversation with someone feeling emotional? Perhaps this person was grieving, ...

Mar 28

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What Happened to the Romance?

People often wonder what happened to the romance after living together. When people first start dating, they only see each other one to a few times a week. That means that people have time to prepare themselves. They ensure they look good and are on their best behavior. When you live with someone, ...

Mar 25

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Five tips for letting go of negativity

The definition of negativity ...

Jan 31

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3 Ways to overcome your fear of divorce

Jan 26

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Avoiding Therapy Won’t Help You Avoid Pain

Most of us seek comfort and reward over pain and punishment. When our mood has been anxious or depressed for too long, our body begins to feel ...

Jan 2

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To Forgive or Not

Placing Blame – When something negative happens, people often look to place blame on themselves or others.  If you can blame yourself, then perhaps you can avoid the same mishap from happening again.  If you blame someone else, it removes some of the heavy feelings of guilt and ...

Nov 28

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OVERCOMING SHAME TO IMPROVE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

When Aaron was small, his mother would lock him in the closet to discipline ...

May 11

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I am a shell of what I once was

Suzanne had been at the height of her career when she met her ex-husband, Mark. She felt like she had finally made it. She was loved by many and had financial security. On the other hand, Mark had just retired from a lucrative finance job.When they met, Mark was charming and overly courteous. He ...

Apr 21

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Blog Writer:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships. As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery. Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma. I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner. I can help you develop new attachment strategies that will allow you to form deeper connections and bonds with those around you. And, if you have children, I can also assist you in establishing secure attachments with both parents, which can be especially helpful in cases of separation or divorce. I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching. These tools, combined with my extensive knowledge and experience in the field, enable me to offer you the guidance and support you need to recover from past traumas and build healthy relationships. My approach to therapy is empathetic, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. Every person can grow, and thrive. I am committed to helping you achieve your goals. So, whether you are struggling with relationship issues, divorce, abuse, attachment traumas, or other challenges, I am here to help you find the peace and comfort you deserve. Email me at info@doctormonicaborschel.com or call the MindnLife Clinic at 852 2521 4668