Healing from abusive childhood experiences

When Sam was a child, his father would drink and then come home and smash the house.  From his bed, he could hear his mother crying.  His mother would crawl into Sam’s bed at night and cry.  Sam was confused.  He didn’t know how to help his mother, and he felt scared ...

Jan 8

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, ...

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My partner cheated; now what?

Randy had been married for three years to someone that he thought was faithful.  He felt that they had a great relationship, and he didn’t see any problems that were out of the ordinary for couples.  He was shocked when he saw a notification come on his wife’s cell phone ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Complex PTSD, Divorce / ...

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Turning your child against the other parent will backfire

Lila was a woman who did not believe in divorce.  ...

Jan 8

Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Emotional Abuse, Ending a relationship ...

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I’m contaminated

Most of us have a certain sense of safety and control over our bodies.  After a sexual assault, ...

Jan 8

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...

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I’m leaving my spouse; will my child be ok?

Riley had tried everything to work it out with her husband, Dave.  They had gone to couples counselling, and she had tried to be flexible with his needs.  It seemed like no matter how hard she tried; he wasn’t happy.  She felt anxious and trapped in her marriage.  As much ...

Jan 8

Categories: Child Development, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Grief, Loss, ...

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Your therapist is there to help not to judge

April was struggling with depression ...

Jan 8

Categories: Abortion, Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, ...

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Mental Health Tune-Up

When stressed, the drive for success or chaos ensues, we might forget about our mental health.  We might be so busy striving or surviving that we aren’t in check with how we are feeling emotionally, physically or psychologically.  So how can you tell if you are out of balance?

Jan 8

Categories: Abortion, Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, ...

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But I don’t want to break-up…

Sara had been unhappy in her relationship for the last six months.  Her boyfriend would stay out until six am in the morning and then come home drunk.  She was often afraid that something terrible had happened to him.  She would tell him her concerns, but he would dismiss her or yell ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

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Being single during COVID

Riley was feeling troubled about her current work situation.  Because of COVID-19, she had to work longer hours ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Life Purpose / Meaning / ...

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What can I expect in therapy?

Ryan never believed in therapy.  He felt that it was for people with severe mental illness, and that was not him.  He also did not think that it was masculine ...

Jan 8

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

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Why does my divorce make me feel like my life is over?

Sherrie had just settled into her new flat without her husband.  The divorce was a civil one, and the financial settlement left both parties secure.  Despite having what she needed financially, she couldn’t shake the feeling of abandonment ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

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People are doing the best they can with what they have

 Andrew came home in a huff.  How could his new admin, Rita,  be such an idiot? She had messed up his busy schedule, and now he was late for dinner with his wife, Suzy.  Suzy was upset because she felt like Andrew was late because he didn’t value ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Self-Care / Self ...

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Benefits of EMDR online

Angela would get anxious hours before she had her EMDR ...

Jan 8

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

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Why I Can’t Just Get Over It

Lori grew up with nice clothes, in a beautiful home and had all of her physical needs met.  When Lori was a small child, she was told repeatedly by her parents that she was stupid ...

Jan 8

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) ...

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You are More than Your IQ

Ricky struggled in school for most of his life.  In primary school, he would battle to focus on what the teacher was saying; he felt like homework was boring. His parents would often be disappointed when he would bring home his report card.  Ricky felt his confidence ...

Jan 8

Categories: Academic Issues, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Care / Self Compassion, ...

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Blog Writer:

Dr Monica Borschel

Dr Borschel specialises in Attachment and Loss. She is experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, or loss of a loved one. Dr. Borschel’s attachment-based psychodynamic therapy along with EMDR, enables her clients to find healing within themselves. In so doing, she can help adults, teens, and children to overcome grief, anxiety, trauma, neglect, emotional, verbal, physical abuse, and child abuse. Furthermore, as an attachment specialist, she also helps individuals understand relationship patterns which prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. She is able to help reduce anxiety, insomnia, depression and promote confidence and self-esteem. This may include deciding what is in the best interest of the children during custody disputes, strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children. Dr. Borschel is originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, U.S.A. She graduated with her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University in New York City. She later moved to Hong Kong to pursue her doctorate at the University of Hong Kong in Social Work and Social Administration. Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology. Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), the American Counseling Association (ACA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA) and EMDRIA certified therapist.