OVERCOMING SHAME TO IMPROVE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

When Aaron was small, his mother would lock him in the closet to discipline ...

May 11

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...

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I am a shell of what I once was

Suzanne had been at the height of her career when she met her ex-husband, Mark. She felt like she had finally made it. She was loved by many and had financial security. On the other hand, Mark had just retired from a lucrative finance job.When they met, Mark was charming and overly courteous. He ...

Apr 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, Grief, ...

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HOW CREATIVITY AND INNOVATION CAN SUPPORT YOUR HEALING JOURNEY

EMDR

Apr 21

Categories: Anxiety, Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, Post Traumatic Stress ...

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The Behaviour Sleuths Investigate…Pet Loss

 In this series of the Behaviour Sleuths we investigate pet loss. If you have experienced pet loss or may be preparing to lose a pet, please join us to discuss research, personal experiences and resources.

Apr 11

Categories: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / ...

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You Don't Need To Suffer In Silence

Mark came from a prominent yet abusive ...

Mar 7

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Attachment Issues, Post ...

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I Just Wanted to be Loved

Elizabeth sat on her therapist’s couch, trying to answer questions about her life as a teenager.  She had dabbled in drugs, ran away, used men for her own ends and chronically shoplifted.  Elizabeth was nothing like that now.  She was a successful lawyer who valued her ...

Mar 7

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...

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Which Type of Lonely are You?

If you were to google types of loneliness, you might be surprised at how many lonely types there are.  One loneliness researcher found eighty different types of loneliness.  Loneliness can range from existential loneliness to physical loneliness.  Any loneliness can lead to feeling ...

Feb 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

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I am always angry, and I hate it

Andrew walked through the busy streets of Hong Kong, waiting for someone to bump into him.  As he walked through Central, people would look at their phones as they walked into him.  He tried not to get angry, but the tension would build until he would snap and shoulder check or push ...

Feb 10

Categories: Anger Management, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, Post ...

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WHAT IF, WHAT IF, WHAT IF... Coping With Stress, Anxiety and Overwhelm

Stress and anxiety can be motivating and healthy in just the right amount. Think of it as a well-being scale. Too little stress and we don’t get anything done. Yet too much pressure keeps our nervous system on a drive without any brakes. When our bodies undergo chronic stress, our immune ...

Feb 2

Categories: Anxiety, Caregiver Issues / Stress, Couple Counseling, Post Traumatic ...

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Come as you are - the beauty of online mental health

Aria had just hit crash.  She ...

Nov 17

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Depression, ...

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Crying is Nature's Detox

The tears began to well up in Jade’s eyes.  “don’t cry, don’t cry,” she told herself.  She was tired, and her broken heart was incredibly raw.  As a child, she was taught that showing negative emotions was a sign of weakness. As a result, she always felt ...

Nov 12

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...

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HOW TO USE SELF-COMPASSION AS A FORM OF SELF-CARE

“I’m going to fail; I just know it,” Andrea thought to herself before she started preparing for her exam. Then, her anxiety started to worsen, and she struggled to focus.  Even though Andrea had done well in school, she always felt like she wasn’t good enough ...

Nov 12

Categories: Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Mental Health in Asia, Post Traumatic Stress ...

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TIRED? SORE? INFLAMED? IT MIGHT BE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

Helena often felt like she had a chest infection. Her lungs felt tight, and she gasped for air. Was she suffering from pneumonia? When she visited the medical doctor, all her tests seemed to be normal. The doctor asked her, “What else is going on in your life? Are you stressed, anxious, ...

Nov 12

Categories: Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Depression, Health / Illness / Medical Issues, ...

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My loyalty and commitment were used against me

 Andrew was a marine who was taught that commitment and loyalty were what made a man brave.  These core values ...

Oct 28

Categories: Complex PTSD, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Positive Psychology, Post ...

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It was then that he realized he was unbreakable

Ryan grew up in the foster system.  There were pleasant and not so friendly foster homes.  He was in and out of the juvenile hall for crimes he committed to make ends meet.  Ryan’s basketball coach, Derek, understood Ryan’s situation, and he wanted him to turn ...

Oct 28

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Attachment Issues, Complex ...

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Blog Writer:

Dr Monica Borschel

My goal is to help you out of the pain that you are feeling from abuse, loss, and unhealthy relationships and into loving yourself and your life again. I understand how scary it is in the darkness and I want to help you transition back into the light. Do you feel invisible? I can help you to feel seen and heard again. I have helped hundreds of individuals go from suffering to thriving. I have studied the effects of abuse, loss, and unhealthy relationships on self-worth, trust, depression, and anxiety for almost fifteen years. My education and clinical experience have enabled my clients to understand their own worth, make positive changes in their relationships and careers, and have more confidence. I specialize in attachment, trauma, and loss. I am experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, and loss. This may include deciding what is in the children’s best interest during disputes and strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children. As an attachment specialist, I help individuals understand and deal with relationship patterns that prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. I have had the privilege of working with people from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and experiences. I am from Salt Lake City, Utah. I graduated with my master’s in psychology from Columbia University in New York City. I pursued her doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I live in California and work on my PsyD at California Southern University. Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology (HKSCP). Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), and the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA).