Overcoming the multiple losses of your divorce

Before marriage, people often fantasize about living a romantic and happy life together. During marriage, people learn to adapt to their partner. Part of this adaptation is to form a new identity together. This identity can look like husband, wife, mother, father, nurturer, and provider. As you ...

Sep 13

Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a relationship issues, Grief, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Here’s How to Hold Space for Others’ Emotions

Have you ever felt drained after a conversation with someone feeling emotional? Perhaps this person was grieving, ...

Mar 28

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Bereavement, Complex PTSD, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Therapy and Healing

In therapy, we talk often about 'healing' our psychological wounds. Often clients think it is getting to a place where historic hurts no longer have the power to hurt them. They imagine therapy will help them feel differently, a state of reborn, aka the movie "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind", where the protagonist ...

Dec 16

Categories: Grief, Loss, Bereavement

Written By:
Carol Thow

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I am a shell of what I once was

Suzanne had been at the height of her career when she met her ex-husband, Mark. She felt like she had finally made it. She was loved by many and had financial security. On the other hand, Mark had just retired from a lucrative finance job.When they met, Mark was charming and overly courteous. He ...

Apr 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, Grief, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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The Behaviour Sleuths Investigate…Pet Loss

 In this series of the Behaviour Sleuths we investigate pet loss. If you have experienced pet loss or may be preparing to lose a pet, please join us to discuss research, personal experiences and resources.

Apr 11

Categories: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Which Type of Lonely are You?

If you were to google types of loneliness, you might be surprised at how many lonely types there are.  One loneliness researcher found eighty different types of loneliness.  Loneliness can range from existential loneliness to physical loneliness.  Any loneliness can lead to feeling ...

Feb 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Come as you are - the beauty of online mental health

Aria had just hit crash.  She ...

Nov 17

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Depression, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Crying is Nature's Detox

The tears began to well up in Jade’s eyes.  “don’t cry, don’t cry,” she told herself.  She was tired, and her broken heart was incredibly raw.  As a child, she was taught that showing negative emotions was a sign of weakness. As a result, she always felt ...

Nov 12

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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My loyalty and commitment were used against me

 Andrew was a marine who was taught that commitment and loyalty were what made a man brave.  These core values ...

Oct 28

Categories: Complex PTSD, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Positive Psychology, Post ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Success is the best revenge

 Dylan had just found out that his wife, Anna, had been cheating ...

Oct 13

Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a relationship issues, Grief, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Success is the best revenge

Dylan had just found out that his wife, Anna, had been cheating ...

Sep 28

Categories: Anger Management, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Grief, Loss, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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My partner cheated; now what?

Randy had been married for three years to someone that he thought was faithful.  He felt that they had a great relationship, and he didn’t see any problems that were out of the ordinary for couples.  He was shocked when he saw a notification come on his wife’s cell phone ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Complex PTSD, Divorce / ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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I’m leaving my spouse; will my child be ok?

Riley had tried everything to work it out with her husband, Dave.  They had gone to couples counselling, and she had tried to be flexible with his needs.  It seemed like no matter how hard she tried; he wasn’t happy.  She felt anxious and trapped in her marriage.  As much ...

Jan 8

Categories: Child Development, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Grief, Loss, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Mental Health Tune-Up

When stressed, the drive for success or chaos ensues, we might forget about our mental health.  We might be so busy striving or surviving that we aren’t in check with how we are feeling emotionally, physically or psychologically.  So how can you tell if you are out of balance?

Jan 8

Categories: Abortion, Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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But I don’t want to break-up…

Sara had been unhappy in her relationship for the last six months.  Her boyfriend would stay out until six am in the morning and then come home drunk.  She was often afraid that something terrible had happened to him.  She would tell him her concerns, but he would dismiss her or yell ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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