You are More than Your IQ

Ricky struggled in school for most of his life.  In primary school, he would battle to focus on what the teacher was saying; he felt like homework was boring. His parents would often be disappointed when he would bring home his report card.  Ricky felt his confidence ...

Jan 8

Categories: Academic Issues, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Care / Self Compassion, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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EMDR for anxiety

As uncomfortable as anxiety can be, we all need a little bit of anxiety ...

Apr 15

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Caregiver Issues / Stress, ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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The problems with isolation

Human babies need caregivers because they are born helpless.  This first bond between caregiver and baby develops our attachment system, which is linked to our nervous system. We learn as babies and then toddlers how to get our needs met through others.  As we grow into teenagers, we look ...

Apr 1

Categories: Anger Management, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Depression, Emotional ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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How can I set boundaries with my teenager?

Setting boundaries ...

Sep 18

Categories: Emotional Intelligence, Family Problems, Oppositional & Defiant ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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Why do I feel like I am suffocating around my parents?

From time to time, an adult will seek my help because they feel like they can’t breathe around their parents.  The feeling of not being able to breathe could be from anxiety or panic.  Sometimes, we hold our breath without thinking when we are waiting for something to happen, when ...

Aug 28

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Emotional ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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Why Do People Lash Out?

Lashing out can happen for multiple reasons.  Sometimes the person who lashes out feels a temporary release of stress and anger, but might later feel embarrassed or ashamed.  Lashing out can be a response to past trauma, a self-protective response or a way to control and devalue others. ...

Aug 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Will it ever get any better?

Life includes a certain amount of suffering. Some of the sufferings include rejection, failure, loss and trauma.  When we are going through a difficult time, it can be hard to see the light. When we are depressed or sad, we can only remember the depressed or sad times.  It can be ...

Aug 5

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Depression, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Grief is a natural process.

Grief is one of the most tragic and beautiful experiences that one can go through. Our heart aches, and we yearn for the one that we lost. We see them in crowds, we remember their scent and dream about them. We might feel confused and mentally slow. We might become angry or distant. Just as a snake sheds his skin to grow, grief can lead us to ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adult psychological development, Emotional Intelligence, Grief, Loss, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Understanding Your Child's Behaviour and Emotions

Many parents struggle with what they consider to be bad behavior from their children.  Demands from work and relationships can lead to a sense of feeling overwhelmed.  The last thing an over-stressed parent has patience for is children who misbehave.  The following is a guide to behavioral management to use at home to gain control ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adult psychological development, Child Development, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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How to better manage your days when you are depressed.

Depression is a liar. It tells us that we are fundamentally flawed and that we should hide. Depression is exhausting. It's difficult to reach out for help because we don't want to burden anyone. Sometimes when you are depressed you need to do opposite of what you feel.1. Reach out for professional help. You might feel like you ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adult psychological development, Depression, Emotional Intelligence, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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How Can I Express How I Really Feel?

Sometimes we might have a difficult time expressing how we feel because we are afraid of how others will react or what they might think of us. We might have a hard time expressing how we feel because we are not sure what it is we are feeling. Emotions can be complex. Part of it might be because we tell ourselves that how we feel doesn't ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adult psychological development, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Speaking To Your Child About Divorce

Divorce is a difficult situation for adults, let alone children and teenagers.  Parents who are separating might be experiencing their own grief, sadness and anxiety.  As the adult, it is important that you are able to be the secure base for your child or teenager during this time.  Children are intuitive and can sense the mood of ...

Jun 21

Categories: Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Child Development, Divorce / Divorce ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Why Am I So Angry?

Humans have emotions for a reason.  Some emotions keep us safe, social and on a certain life path.  Anger is an emotion that tells others, "don't mess with me," or "I want to feel in control." Anger helps us to feel powerful and it can motivate us.  Anger is not a problem, but how we react to it can be.1. ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Control Issues, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Am I sad or depressed?

Sadness is an emotion that slows us down and teaches us that we made a mistake, or that something or someone hurt us.  Usually, when we are sad, we are still able to get out of bed and maintain our daily routines.  Depression is a deeper emotion that often feels like darkness or heaviness.  We find ourselves unable to go about our ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Depression, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Overcoming Rejection

Being rejected is a sign that you have pushed yourself out of your comfort zone and have tried to achieve something.  Rejection can sting and hurt our self-esteem if we don't manage it properly.  We can use rejection to learn and gain what we originally set out for. Here are some pointers on how you can use rejection to your ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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