Placing Blame – When something negative happens, people often look to place blame on themselves or others. If you can blame yourself, then perhaps you can avoid the same mishap from happening again. If you blame someone else, it removes some of the heavy feelings of guilt and shame.
Date Posted: November 28, 2022
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Anxiety, Depression, ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Tammy Fontana, from All in the Family Counselling Centre Pte Ltd discusses how various forms of real or imagined leverage can undermine a relationship. Forms of leverage include emotional guilty, love withdrawal, silent treatment, financial dependency, social dependency, psychological dependency. She discusses this in her talk. Ms Fontana Helps ...
Sep 13
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Codependency / Dependency, Cognitive ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
When Aaron was small, his mother would lock him in the closet to discipline ...
May 11
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Do you long for a home?
May 5
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adult psychological development, ...
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Suzanne had been at the height of her career when she met her ex-husband, Mark. She felt like she had finally made it. She was loved by many and had financial security. On the other hand, Mark had just retired from a lucrative finance job.When they met, Mark was charming and overly courteous. He ...
Apr 21
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, Grief, ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Mark came from a prominent yet abusive ...
Mar 7
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Attachment Issues, Post ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Elizabeth sat on her therapist’s couch, trying to answer questions about her life as a teenager. She had dabbled in drugs, ran away, used men for her own ends and chronically shoplifted. Elizabeth was nothing like that now. She was a successful lawyer who valued her ...
Mar 7
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
“Give While You Live” is the title of a post written by John Blase for Daily Bread.It’s a psychotherapeutic slogan for me. It promotes one’s overall mental health and well being.Giving can boost both mental and physical health. Research shows that those who give live longer ...
Feb 24
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Control Issues, Depression
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
If you were to google types of loneliness, you might be surprised at how many lonely types there are. One loneliness researcher found eighty different types of loneliness. Loneliness can range from existential loneliness to physical loneliness. Any loneliness can lead to feeling ...
Feb 21
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Aria had just hit crash. She ...
Nov 17
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Depression, ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
The tears began to well up in Jade’s eyes. “don’t cry, don’t cry,” she told herself. She was tired, and her broken heart was incredibly raw. As a child, she was taught that showing negative emotions was a sign of weakness. As a result, she always felt ...
Nov 12
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Find purpose in the pain.I once heard the Pope praying that he dies quickly when it’s his time without the pain. “I’m not very good at pain,” he’d admit.In my psychotherapy work, people hate pain. The pain of their emotional wounds. Their trauma in life.“I feel a ...
May 2
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Addictions, Chronic Pain
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
When Sam was a child, his father would drink and then come home and smash the house. From his bed, he could hear his mother crying. His mother would crawl into Sam’s bed at night and cry. Sam was confused. He didn’t know how to help his mother, and he felt scared ...
Jan 8
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Most of us have a certain sense of safety and control over our bodies. After a sexual assault, ...
Jan 8
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
April was struggling with depression ...
Jan 8
Categories: Abortion, Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
When stressed, the drive for success or chaos ensues, we might forget about our mental health. We might be so busy striving or surviving that we aren’t in check with how we are feeling emotionally, physically or psychologically. So how can you tell if you are out of balance?
Jan 8
Categories: Abortion, Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel