I am a shell of what I once was

Suzanne had been at the height of her career when she met her ex-husband, Mark. She felt like she had finally made it. She was loved by many and had financial security. On the other hand, Mark had just retired from a lucrative finance job.When they met, Mark was charming and overly courteous. He ...

Apr 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, Grief, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Sexual Desire Discrepancy: When The Woman Wants Sex More Than Her Man

Since the arrival of your baby, the sexual balance seems to be reversed in the bedroom. You are the one who wants more sex, and he does not seem interested. Instead, he appears to be giving all kinds of excuses – from tiredness, stress, not being in the mood, to a full work day ahead.

Dec 5

Categories: Relationships & Marriage, Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Love, ...

Written By:
Dr. Martha Tara Lee

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Crying is Nature's Detox

The tears began to well up in Jade’s eyes.  “don’t cry, don’t cry,” she told herself.  She was tired, and her broken heart was incredibly raw.  As a child, she was taught that showing negative emotions was a sign of weakness. As a result, she always felt ...

Nov 12

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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HOW TO USE SELF-COMPASSION AS A FORM OF SELF-CARE

“I’m going to fail; I just know it,” Andrea thought to herself before she started preparing for her exam. Then, her anxiety started to worsen, and she struggled to focus.  Even though Andrea had done well in school, she always felt like she wasn’t good enough ...

Nov 12

Categories: Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Mental Health in Asia, Post Traumatic Stress ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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The “I am not good enough” scam

Zack grew up in a wealthy family. His mother was a lawyer, and his father was a surgeon. His parents were quite busy, so he often came home and worked on his homework by himself. His parents were kind and were able to buy him things, but he felt emotionally lonely ...

Oct 13

Categories: Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Confidence, Self-Criticism, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Why Being Selfish Hurts You

Being selfish hurts you. It is dangerous.  

Jul 22

Categories: Anger Management, Borderline Personality Disorder, Self-Care / Self ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Vicarious Trauma

Vicarious trauma is a term to describe the reaction of people helpers in hearing their client's trauma stories. Vicarious trauma changes the people helpers' view about themselves, others and the world. It alters the sense of security, ability to trust others, self-esteem, capacity for connection and ability to self-regulate.

Feb 9

Categories: Self-Care / Self Compassion

Written By:
Rose

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You Are Both the Gardener and the Plant

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Jan 26

Categories: Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Mindfulness, Self-Care / ...

Written By:
Dr Oberdan Marianetti

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My partner cheated; now what?

Randy had been married for three years to someone that he thought was faithful.  He felt that they had a great relationship, and he didn’t see any problems that were out of the ordinary for couples.  He was shocked when he saw a notification come on his wife’s cell phone ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Complex PTSD, Divorce / ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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I’m contaminated

Most of us have a certain sense of safety and control over our bodies.  After a sexual assault, ...

Jan 8

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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But I don’t want to break-up…

Sara had been unhappy in her relationship for the last six months.  Her boyfriend would stay out until six am in the morning and then come home drunk.  She was often afraid that something terrible had happened to him.  She would tell him her concerns, but he would dismiss her or yell ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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People are doing the best they can with what they have

 Andrew came home in a huff.  How could his new admin, Rita,  be such an idiot? She had messed up his busy schedule, and now he was late for dinner with his wife, Suzy.  Suzy was upset because she felt like Andrew was late because he didn’t value ...

Jan 8

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Self-Care / Self ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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You are More than Your IQ

Ricky struggled in school for most of his life.  In primary school, he would battle to focus on what the teacher was saying; he felt like homework was boring. His parents would often be disappointed when he would bring home his report card.  Ricky felt his confidence ...

Jan 8

Categories: Academic Issues, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Care / Self Compassion, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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The Future of Counselling

Over the past three months, we’ve seen people, organisations and businesses make adjustments to adapt to “The New Normal”. While it has largely been a work in progress with everyone still figuring out the best way to go about things, we cannot deny that certain needs have been ...

Jul 8

Categories: Self-Care / Self Compassion

Written By:
Eugene Chong

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Till “death” do us part!

Really…now, this might just be one bubble that needs to be popped already.Marriage is a very personal affair. What works in one marriage may or may not work in another. The limits, the overstepping, the rights, the love are all personal and individual choices. There are laws that stipulate what may constitute legal and illegal behaviour/ ...

May 29

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Adult psychological ...

Written By:
Mini Nair

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