A frequent call I get is a distraught female partner calling me to make an appointment for the couple or her spouse/boyfriend because she caught him using porn (which is code for masturbating himself to porn and not using her). The other frequent call I get is the shamed husband/boyfriend calling me with the ...
Date Posted: May 11, 2014
Categories: Couple Counseling, Ending a relationship issues, Marital Counseling, ...
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Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Betrayals in relationship change the quality and functioning of the relationship in dramatic ways. Trust is the primary aspect affected as well as the betrayed partner’s sense of safety in the couple. Betrayals bring up many dilemmas for the couple. Few couples have the skills or the ...
May 11
Categories: Couple Counseling, Infidelity, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
The number one question people have about sex is “Am I normal?” The second most common question asked is “Is my partner normal?”It is never helpful to frame sex in terms or normal or not normal as if there was so universal standard or universal truth. The is a wide ...
Jan 13
Categories: Adult psychological development, Coping with Medical Problems, Couple ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
It is faulty thinking to believe that if you are attracted to someone else there must be something wrong at home. It is possible to be attracted to somebody else, even if you have a good marriage. The single most important protector against an affair is appropriate boundaries. In a culture where ...
Dec 7
Categories: Couple Counseling, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a ...
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An emotional affair is when a person not only invests more of their emotional energy outside their marriage, but also receives emotional support and companionship from the new relationship. In an emotional affair, a person feels closer to the other party and may experience increasing ...
Nov 16
Categories: Couple Counseling, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a ...
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Are you struggle with a marriage that isn't working the way you want it too but your partner isn't as interested or motivated as you are to fix it? Do you really need to have your spouse or romantic partner attend counselling in order to make it better? The short answer is no, you do ...
Nov 12
Categories: Couple Counseling, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Domestic Violence, ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Emotional Affairs are an issue that we see more and more. What is an emotional affair? It can be described as intense romantic feelings directed toward a person outside your primary relationship. In other words, having an emotional affair is falling in love with the potential or fantasy ...
Oct 24
Categories: Couple Counseling, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a ...
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It’s not a communication problem
Married couples think because their partner doesn’t want what s/he wants or see the problem as s/he does, they have a communication problem. People’s definition of a communication problem is that they are unable to get their partner to ...
Sep 7
Categories: Blended Family Issues, Codependency / Dependency, Communication ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
The Science of Marriage
In the first science study done by UCLA on marriage and divorce it found—when women have doubts before their wedding, their misgivings are often a warning sign of trouble if they go ahead with the marriage. The psychologists studied 464 newlywed spouses (232 couples) ...
Aug 25
Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Couples planning to get married, newlyweds or honeymoon couples can benefit from relationship skills that will ensure a successful marriage. A strong marriage requires good relationship and communications skills. It also requires couples to have skills to manage inevitable conflict issues smoothly ...
Aug 25
Categories: Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, Mental Health ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Counselling seems to be a pretty mysterious process for most people. Unless things are REALLY bad, most people don’t think about counselling or think it’s too expensive or are just not sure how it works. Usually counselling is a last resort rather than a first stop for getting ...
Aug 25
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Addictions, Adjusting to Change / Life ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
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How to Fall in Love Again, Post Coming Out of a Traumatic Relationship?
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Engineers and their Feelings: Discussing difficulties to connect to your partner
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Demystifying the process of change in Counselling- How you get better
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Anthony Hopkins and the suffering caused by unrecognized Asperger’s ...
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Codependence and the three A's: Awareness, Acceptance, and Action