It’s not a communication problem
Married couples think because their partner doesn’t want what s/he wants or see the problem as s/he does, they have a communication problem. People’s definition of a communication problem is that they are unable to get their partner to willingly and happily ...
Date Posted: September 7, 2013
Categories: Blended Family Issues, Codependency / Dependency, Communication ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
As a psychotherapist, I've become convinced that more than half of the emotional pains we suffer in life are totally unnecessary. A lot of these unnecessary pains are caused by a wounded sense of self worth. And so often, a wounded self worth is accompanied by constant negative self talks, ...
Sep 2
Categories: Identity Problems, Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Esteem
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Counselling for Cheating or Infidelity in a Marriage
Relationships can and do recover from marrital cheating and they can go on to survive and thrive. However the journey to a great marriage after learning about infidelity is a challenging path.
There are several stages that married couples must ...
Aug 25
Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Adult psychological ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
The Science of Marriage
In the first science study done by UCLA on marriage and divorce it found—when women have doubts before their wedding, their misgivings are often a warning sign of trouble if they go ahead with the marriage. The psychologists studied 464 newlywed spouses (232 couples) ...
Aug 25
Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Couples planning to get married, newlyweds or honeymoon couples can benefit from relationship skills that will ensure a successful marriage. A strong marriage requires good relationship and communications skills. It also requires couples to have skills to manage inevitable conflict issues smoothly ...
Aug 25
Categories: Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, Mental Health ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
From the theoretical orientation of Dr. William Glasser, founder of Choice Theory Reality Therapy (CTRT), depression is seen as a chosen behaviour not an emotion that you are victim to. So CTRT therapist would say you are DEPRESSING or even anxieting or angering instead of being depressed, anxious or angry. All behaviour is purposeful in ...
Aug 25
Categories: Bereavement, Bipolar, Coping with Medical Problems, Couple ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Counselling seems to be a pretty mysterious process for most people. Unless things are REALLY bad, most people don’t think about counselling or think it’s too expensive or are just not sure how it works. Usually counselling is a last resort rather than a first stop for getting ...
Aug 25
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Addictions, Adjusting to Change / Life ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
In a previous post I described the various ways depression can manifest itself and in today’s post I wish
to focus on ways to cope with or treat clinical depression.
If you think you might be depressed, I have described in this post the steps to take to alleviate this very treatable ...
Aug 15
Categories: Depression
Written By:
Brian Scott
Our childhood teaches us how to relate to others. Adult romantic relationships rely on using the patterns of relating we learn in infancy. Counsellors are trained to help us to deal with complex psychological issues which are damaging to our close relationships. Therapeutic approaches like relationship counselling, draw on psychological ...
Jul 24
Categories: Communication Disorders Problems, Couple Counseling, Emotional ...
Written By:
Joanna Fishman
One time, I had a long counseling session with a distraught couple. Things started to get hairy when the husband and wife related to me about unexplainable, “supernatural” appearances happening in their home.
Just several days ago, the wife (along with a companion) said ...
Jul 18
Categories: Adult psychological development, Couple Counseling, Fear
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
This post is directed at those who are contemplating or already receiving treatment for depression. I would like to share with you some suggestions about how you can optimize the effectiveness of the treatment for depression. These suggestions are based on both published research and from my ...
Jul 18
Categories: Depression
Written By:
Brian Scott
Why it is important to understand the causes of clinical depression?
Understanding what causes depression enables one to design the optimal treatment plan. For example, if you moved from the tropics to Canada and did not see the sun for days at a time then, your psychotherapist might point out ...
Jul 3
Categories: Depression
Written By:
Brian Scott
Last night, a few of my friends met up an accident prior to their arrival in the restaurant where we set a dinner fellowship. Already delayed, they still had to go to the police station to file a report. When, finally, they arrived, I was smiling at them. Jokingly, I asked them, "What lesson ...
Jun 15
Categories: Adult psychological development, Self-Care / Self Compassion, ...
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
One of the most painful events that can happen in a committed relationship such as marriage is to discover that your partner has been intimate with someone else. If this has happened to you, or you are the unfaithful partner, let me assure you that there is hope that the relationship can be ...
Jun 13
Categories: Infidelity, Relationships & Marriage
Written By:
Brian Scott
All people will die. We all go to the grave, sooner or later. No one is exempted. Death then is an "anxiety" common to the entire humankind regardless of one's status in life.
I'm reminded of my younger sister who died several years ago. While speaking to her in the ICU ...
Jun 1
Categories: Aging & Geriatric Issues, Anxiety, Bereavement
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
I do many of my psychotherapy sessions in the coffee shop. That may sound surprising and even strange to you. Especially, if you're the traditional type who dislikes innovation or "outside the box." ...
May 27
Categories: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Happiness, Life Purpose / Meaning / ...
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
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