One example of supportive parenting is knowing how to convey rejection in a positive manner. By that, it also refers to not saying ‘no’ straight to a child, but use phrases like “I’m not sure”, “I’ll give you a maybe”, “That might not work out”, “I’ll have to think about it” etc. it is important to be sensitive to words and sentences said to a child as it determines whether an intended message is being conveyed properly.
There are negative impacts of adopting an aloof parenting style. Raising a child in a harsh, cold and authoritarian way can generate several problems in a child ‘s development and growth process. There are 3 main parenting styles to note:
1. Authoritative style
This method raises the child by being clear and stating obvious and reasonable boundaries for the child while being stable and supportive in empowering one’s child.
2. Permissive style
This method lacks rules and regulations. The parent does not offer any support or guidance for the child, together with finding difficulties saying ‘no’ to one’s child.
3. Authoritarian style
This is where parents do not provide enough warmth and love for their child. Parents usually take advantage of their parental power in a wrong and sometimes emotionally abusing manner towards the child, hence an unhealthy form of parenting.
When it comes to rejecting a child’s request, permissive parents find it hard to do so while authoritarian parents rarely say ‘yes’ to their children. Authoritarian style parenting is usually much colder, intimidating and consists of constant rejection to their children’s requests.
Studies have shown that constantly saying ‘no’ to a child, also known as the authoritarian parenting style, is related to several negative impacts on the child such as high risk of childhood delinquency, anxiety and depression, behavioral conduct issues, bad academic results, negative well-being and high ADHD levels during childhood and adolescence phase. This shows that parenting styles as such (authoritarian and permissive) can hurt a child’s psychological development.
Knowing how to phrase rejection in a more positive tone ensures that parents are not overly harsh or permissive. Parents should raise their children with warmth and kindness as much as possible. Parenting is not easy, especially when it comes to finding a balance between saying ‘no’ and giving in to one’s child. No matter what, always try to provide as much guidance and support for your child. Avoid making outright, direct and constant rejections and avoid creating a harsh and cold environment that might negative affect your child’s growth.
Category(s):Child Development, Parenting, Positive Psychology
Source material from Psychology Today
