Do You Know How to Be Present Amid Someone’s Suffering?

Posted on June 8, 2017

Oftentimes in the presence of someone's suffering, many who do care may feel uncomfortable and do not know what to say or do. As a result, they often end up not doing anything, or even 'ghosting', which may in turn cause more emotional hurt to the suffering one when he/she takes it personally.

Here are Edie Weinstein's suggestion of things you can possibly say to express your care and condolences to someone who may be going through a hard time:

1. I’m sorry you’re suffering right now, but I’m here with you and willing to help any way I can. Is there anything you need right now?

2. I’m sorry for whatever challenges might lie ahead for you, but I’m here and willing to help. Would it be okay if I call next week just to check in with you?

3. Please accept my deepest condolences. I can’t imagine what you must be going through right now, but I know enough about grief to know that it can be very challenging. Don’t hesitate to call me if there’s anything I can do to help.

4. I’m so sorry to hear about _____. I’m sure you’re going to miss him/her terribly. How are you holding up?

5. I know there’s nothing I can say right now to make things better, but I also know that having someone to talk to at times like this is really important, so don’t hesitate to call me whenever you need to.

Most of the time, people will appreciate the feeling of being cared for; particularly so for those who may be feeling vulnerable. Showing that you care and are willing to be there to help in whatever way goes a long way.

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