Apologizing can be difficult, and to make an effective apology requires much thoughts on your part. Here is how you can say sorry in a meaningful way - The PANDA method.
P: Promise It Will Never Happen Again.
In giving an authentic apology, convey the message that you've learned from your mistakes, and that given the same circumstances, you would make a different, better, and wiser decision.
A: Admit You Were at Fault.
Retrace your steps and describe exactly why what you did was wrong. A little acknowledgment and empathy can go a very long way.
N: No Excuses.
You may have external circumstances that might have affected your behavior. It doesn’t matter. The moment you start rationalizing, the person you are apologizing to will likely stop listening as you may be seen as finding excuses instead of taking responsibility for your mistakes. Let the sincerity of your apology speak for itself.
D. Describe How You Would Handle the Situation Next Time.
The best thing that can come of any experience a person has is what they have learned. If you can pinpoint just what you’ve taken from the experience, you’ll get credit for taking the opportunity to become a wiser, better person.
A. Act On Your Promise.
The saying goes 'Actions speak louder than words', words are meaningless unless they are reflected in action. Take every opportunity that you can to make restitution.
Forgiveness takes time, willingness, commitment, and patience from both parties. It may not always be granted, but if you are sincere in your expression of regret and desire to change in your apology you’re giving yourself the best opportunity to reconnect and move forwards in your relationship.
Category(s):Relationships & Marriage
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