How Not to win friends and influence people

In 1936, Dale Carnegie wrote the classic self-help book "How to Win Friends and Influence People". It is still an extremely useful book, one of the best sellers of all time, and one which I often recommend to my clients. However in this article, I want to discuss not what to do to ...

Nov 6

Categories: Relationships & Marriage, Workplace Issues


The Fight Fair Contract

Couples commonly engage in arguments throughout the course of their relationship. Whether it's about sharing the household chores, forgetting to get the groceries or even where to go on a holiday. However, fights over small issues can sometimes snowball into something more menancing if the ...

Oct 9

Categories: Relationships & Marriage


Our innate bias to focus on the negative and how to compensate for ...

Have you ever obsessed about the one critical comment someone made to you despite the fact that they also made quite a few positive remarks? For some reason you keep ruminating about that one negative remark. You think about it over and over, perhaps looking for a way to argue better against it or ...

Sep 18

Categories: Happiness, Positive Psychology


Treatment of clinical depression

In a previous post I described the various ways depression can manifest itself and in today’s post I wish to focus on ways to cope with or treat clinical depression. If you think you might be depressed, I have described in this post the steps to take to alleviate this very treatable ...

Aug 15

Categories: Depression


How to make your treatment for Depression more Effective and ...

This post is directed at those who are contemplating or already receiving treatment for depression. I would like to share with you some suggestions about how you can optimize the effectiveness of the treatment for depression. These suggestions are based on both published research and from my ...

Jul 18

Categories: Depression


What causes Depression?

Why it is important to understand the causes of clinical depression? Understanding what causes depression enables one to design the optimal treatment plan. For example, if you moved from the tropics to Canada and did not see the sun for days at a time then, your psychotherapist might point out ...

Jul 3

Categories: Depression


Understanding Infidelity and What You can Do when it happens to You

One of the most painful events that can happen in a committed relationship such as marriage is to discover that your partner has been intimate with someone else. If this has happened to you, or you are the unfaithful partner, let me assure you that there is hope that the relationship can be ...

Jun 13

Categories: Infidelity, Relationships & Marriage


Using Childhood Joys to Increase your Valuing of your own Self

Many people who are codependent do not value and love themselves, their Self, because they have learned in their family of origin that they were of little value or even worse that they were bad. Fortunately there are ways you can learn to reverse this kind of early negative conditioning. One way ...

May 21

Categories: Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Love


Am I Doing what I Really, Really, Want to Do?

With clients who are dissatisfied with their lives and feel it is “all meaningless”, I have found it useful to ask “Are you doing what you really, really, want to do?” Initially many clients are a bit stunned by this question but then after a moment of reflection many reply ...

Feb 25

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Career Development and ...


10 ways to improve your Relationship by Responding Reflectively and ...

Imagine the following scenario. One member of a committed couple arrives home 45 min late. The other member of the couple who spent hours preparing a nice meal feels unappreciated and angrily snaps “Why are you so late?” This seems like an attack to the other mate who was laid off that ...

Jan 18

Categories: Relationships & Marriage


Is there a relationship between codependency and ADHD?

  Codependency and adult attention deficit hyperactivity are special areas of clinical interest for me. Over the past couple of years, I had begun to notice that clients who initially had come for codependency treatment, frequently exhibited symptoms of ADHD. It also seemed that clients in ...

Nov 29

Categories: Adult ADHD, Adult psychological development, Codependency / Dependency


Maintaining Faithfulness in married Expat Couples

I recently came across an article titled "Expat wives losing hubbies to Asian women a big worry" in which expat wives in Singapore expressed worries on the trend of expat husbands leaving their wives for local women. In today's ...

Sep 20

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Infidelity


Coping with stress: What does love have to do with it?

When life tries to slap us down, we instinctively turn to others for support particularly our intimate partners. Although this tendency to seek emotional support from loved ones to heal our wounds has long been recognized, it is only in the past couple of decades that substantial scientific ...

Aug 13

Categories: Codependency / Dependency, Couple Counseling, Post Traumatic Stress ...


3 Ways to Make yourself Happier and more Positive in Life

"The joyfulness of a man prolongeth his days" ~  Ecclesiastes Positive Psychology is an exciting and relatively new area of psychology. It aims to study scientifically what makes us humans happy and how we can improve our general level of happiness, well-being, and health. ...

Jun 19

Categories: Positive Psychology, Self-Care / Self Compassion


Are you an adult with Asperger’s syndrome?

The condition now called Asperger’s syndrome (AS) was first recognized in children in the mid 1940s (Kanner 1943; Asperger, 1944). Since that time, children have been the main focus of attention by mental health workers so that most children with AS have been detected and diagnosed in ...

May 28

Categories: Asperger's Syndrome


Blog Writer:

Brian Scott

Dr. Scott is a clinical psychologist based in Singapore with three decades of counseling and psychotherapy experience in helping adults with many kinds of psychological difficulties. These include anxiety, depression, addictions (cybersex, love), and Adult Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (Adult ADHD).

Brian Scott belongs to Scott Psychological Centre in Singapore