How to stop your parents from ruining your relationship

A while back I was catching up with a friend I hadn’t seen for a while. We were meant to have a quick coffee and ended up spending a half-day together talking and talking.   I learnt that her relationship was not doing so well and that her mother in law was partly responsible for it. I ...

Mar 24

Categories: Codependency / Dependency, Couple Counseling, Emotional Intelligence, ...


Essence, the sailor and the port

It takes courage to sit still for a moment and look within... really look within.

Feb 14

Categories: Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance


Can you talk 'sex' with your doctor?

Thank you for reading my post.I base my posts on real case studies and I regularly write about relationship, leadership and sexuality questions. If you would like to read my future posts, please join us here.If you would like me to help you answer ...

Jan 26

Categories: Sexual Problems / Sex Therapy


Ask Me Anything Series: Reignite Our Passion

The second most voted question in our Ask Me Anything series has been answered (see our question board here).If you are wondering what this is all about, visit the post where I launched the

Jan 4

Categories: Relationships & Marriage, Sexual Problems / Sex Therapy


Let Us Grow Our Voice

Yesterday I watched a film for the fourth time, 'I Am' by Tom Shadyac. If you've not seen it I thoroughly recommend it.Towards the end of the film you can hear Tom narrating the following sentence, "…and yes, the moving trains today are still hunger, human rights, war and ...

Dec 26

Categories: Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, Pre-Marital Counseling, ...


“It’s too late when we die”

“It’s too late when we die”, this amazingly powerful reminder by Mike & The Mechanics seems to be topical to our modern, crazy, unnecessarily busy lives.Maybe you are the corporate employee who spends 10-12-14 hours at day in the office.

Dec 21

Categories: Happiness, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Relationships ...


Reflections On Being Perfect

It’s so easy to look in the mirror and think, rightly or wrongly, that we are a failure.We are constantly judging ourselves by the standards that others have placed upon us. Wealth, body image, house location, children’s school, holiday destinations or clothing are only a few of the ...

Dec 6

Categories: Happiness, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Mindfulness


Where Do Babies Come From? Talking to Your Children About Sex.

I will never forget this.I was in my early teens and we were visiting my auntie. It was after lunch, when my auntie was talking with the other adults at the table about talking sex with children.

Nov 23

Categories: Parenting, Relationships & Marriage, Sexual Problems / Sex Therapy


Penile Pearls, Infection Or Not Infection? That Is The Question!

To all men… and your partners, this is for you.About 10 to 25% of men globally are affected by a totally normal condition that often causes great distress.The one thing I keep fighting through my work, silence, usually causes the distress.The condition goes by the scientific names of ...

Nov 15

Categories: Relationships & Marriage, Sexual Problems / Sex Therapy


Demistifying Premature Ejaculation

 Many men suffer in silence.Global estimates suggest that up to 30% of men have distressing sexual experiences due to their ejaculation occurring earlier than they desire. It is called Premature Ejaculation (PE).

Nov 5

Categories: Relationships & Marriage, Sexual Problems / Sex Therapy


Insights On Women Sexuality

My opening message is this, “Women you are not alone!”Today I want to share some insights on women’s sexual experiences. I am going to use the findings from a 2016 study, which for the first time gives us a coherent view on the sexual challenges women experience globally.This ...

Oct 27

Categories: Relationships & Marriage, Sexual Problems / Sex Therapy


Sex and Relationships In Later Life

 Many people have a negative reaction to the thought of their parents having sex; usually it is a repugnant thought, maybe accompanied by disbelief. This may be obvious, but the reason you are reading this article is because your parents had sex. All being well, they are still having sex.A ...

May 27

Categories: Aging & Geriatric Issues, Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, ...


A.A.A. - Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy

 Just recently I was having a conversation about masculine and feminine energies with someone new to the topic. The conversation was fascinating and it highlighted how confusing this topic can be.It also reminded me of some of the cases I came across, where the masculine and the feminine were ...

May 27

Categories: Codependency / Dependency, Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, ...


TED Talk - Tackling the global epidemic of workplace unhappiness

Ahhh.. the weekend is finally here! But, are you dreading it when Monday comes around? Sadly, you are not alone in this global epidemic of workplace unhappiness. I shared my findings and suggested ways to 'break out of the work cubicle' with a very receptive audience at a TEDx talk. We can all design the life we want.

May 27

Categories: Career Development and Change, Workplace Issues


Blog Writer:

Dr Oberdan Marianetti

Dr Oberdan Marianetti is the founder of Essence Coaching, and the creator of the Essence® model. As a qualified Psychologist and Sexologist, Oberdan has successfully helped individuals and couples revive the excitement in their relationships and sex life. He has a keen desire to help people reconnect with their true selves - their Essence® - and form meaningful connection with others. Whether through private consultations or public workshops, Oberdan is committed to helping each individual rediscover the power and beauty of their own sexuality in an open, safe and non-judgemental environment. With the experience accumulated from private practice, he brings new perspectives on intimacy and sexuality through highly engaging and informative presentations and workshops on sexuality, sex and relationships." His work has been published by the British Psychological Society and Oxford University Press; he is a regular speaker and has developed his own Leadership model (Essence Leadership), which was featured in sector-specific publications and in TED.

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