The Feather and the Wound

It’s a beautiful Sunday morning, you decided to take yourself out for a bike ride by that beautiful park by the sea.It’s busy this morning, but you are a skilled and experienced bike rider, and you continue with confidence along the path.You get momentarily distracted and things unfold ...

Dec 7

Categories: Mindfulness, Relationships & Marriage


Emotional Bank Accounts

Think about the time when you first dated your loved one.You most likely remember the time as a joyous, exciting and fulfilling phase of your relationship. You were likely in what is commonly known as the ‘honeymoon phase’.After years together, however, most of us have a rather ...

Oct 26

Categories: Relationships & Marriage


The Pressures of External Demands

We live hectic lives!I imagine that most of you would agree with the above statement. Few are the people in today’s world, who found a way to balance the perennial demands calling for attention.The sheer volume of tasks and responsibilities we must attend to is enormous. In my experience it ...

Sep 30

Categories: Health Psychology, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, ...


Unnecessary Judgment and Blame

 I realised that most of us constantly judge and blame ourselves for some things that actually warrant no judgment or blame.I often go through the following short script when I notice that a client is beating themselves up unnecessarily.Me: Hold on a second! Do you know I am Italian?Client: ...

Sep 1

Categories: Forgiveness, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Mindfulness, ...


Videogames are just like life!

It’s not uncommon to feel like life is a never-ending set of twists and turns, often unexpected, always somewhat challenging. Over the years I used the analogy of videogames to address this concept and many of its derivatives. I don’t know if life is like videogames or videogames are ...

Jul 30

Categories: Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance


What can business teach us about relationships?

What can business teach us about relationships? I would say quite a lot. Today I want to follow up on my video from two weeks ago, where I introduced the idea that we can learn a lot from the relationships of every day life, like business relationships, to further enhance our intimate ...

Jul 1

Categories: Mindfulness, Relationships & Marriage


Feel happier by clearly distinguishing between 'change' and 'outcomes'

You may recall the video we sent a couple of weeks ago. If you have not seen it, I would thoroughly recommend you watch it. It is my experience ...

Jul 1

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Life Purpose / Meaning / ...


To Stress Or Not To Stress?

 Today I want to share the third analogy I frequently use in my sessions with clients. “What disturbs men’s minds is not events but their judgements on events.” Epictetus Today I want to share a few examples to illustrate how in most situations the stressors we perceive as ...

Jul 1

Categories: Mindfulness


The Clown

You may recall the video we sent a couple of weeks ago. If you have not seen it, I would thoroughly recommend you watch it.  The clown is the next analogy I frequently use during my therapy sessions, ...

Jul 1

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Empathy


The Dashboard

You are driving to an important meeting that you cannot miss, and you are running late. Suddenly you see a yellow/orange light flashing on your dashboard with the symbol of a petrol pump.   What would you do next?   Same scenario, different moment… important meeting, you are late. ...

Feb 23

Categories: Emotional Intelligence, Mindfulness


You Are Both the Gardener and the Plant

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Jan 26

Categories: Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Mindfulness, Self-Care / ...


A new self-development programme shows significant improvements in ...

I have some exciting news following a small research project that I conducted over the last few months.I present the article in a scientific format for ease of reference, and it includes some technical information, but it is definitely written for any reader.

Dec 13

Categories: Depression, Happiness, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, ...


Talking to Kids about Sex: An Age by Age Guide to Sex Education and ...

Originally published on Sassy Mama on 24 Sept 2019 When should you start talking to your kids about sex? And do you wait until they start asking ...

Oct 6

Categories: Child Development, Parenting, Sexual Problems / Sex Therapy


Can mindset, cold and breathing really heal us?

I still hear the admonitions as if it were yesterday. “Wear a hat, it’s cold and you’ll get sick” “Cover yourself or you’ll catch a fever, it’s cold outside” There are more, but I think you get the picture.Fast forward to 3+ years ago and I stumble on ...

Jan 31

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Depression, Life ...


Is regret a warning light?

Happy New Year everyone, and thank you for the ongoing support!!!I noticed a pattern that continues to show up in conversations with my clients and I want to offer it as an opportunity for reflection and growth.We probably all have some regrets, tiny or huge that they may be, they tend to be ...

Jan 4

Categories: Anxiety, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance


Blog Writer:

Dr Oberdan Marianetti

Dr Oberdan Marianetti is the founder of Essence Coaching, and the creator of the EssenceĀ® model. As a qualified Psychologist and Sexologist, Oberdan has successfully helped individuals and couples revive the excitement in their relationships and sex life. He has a keen desire to help people reconnect with their true selves - their EssenceĀ® - and form meaningful connection with others. Whether through private consultations or public workshops, Oberdan is committed to helping each individual rediscover the power and beauty of their own sexuality in an open, safe and non-judgemental environment. With the experience accumulated from private practice, he brings new perspectives on intimacy and sexuality through highly engaging and informative presentations and workshops on sexuality, sex and relationships." His work has been published by the British Psychological Society and Oxford University Press; he is a regular speaker and has developed his own Leadership model (Essence Leadership), which was featured in sector-specific publications and in TED.

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