Why Therapy Turns Empty

On various occasions, I've been excited when men who know they're addicted, dysfunctional, or immoral agreed to talk to me about inner healing. Yet each time I get disappointed by the outcome of our therapy and counseling sessions.One man who came to see me was an active religionist in the ...

Dec 2

Categories: Addictions, Adult psychological development, Emptiness


Freud Is An Enemy, Not A Friend

Sigmund Freud, father of psychoanalysis, gave many deep insights on psychology and psychotherapy. Unfortunately, he missed seeing clearly the “wholeness of man” and the very essence of human nature. Many of his theories were “anti-spirit” part and reinforcing a ...

Nov 25

Categories: Adult psychological development, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Mental ...


Retirement Life Therapy

This past few weeks, I've been doing a series of messages on happiness among attendees of my weekly hospital life recovery group. Since quite a number of patients in this hospital are aged or retirees, I tried to zero in on issues affecting this particular age group (though am not a member of ...

Oct 30

Categories: Adult psychological development, Aging & Geriatric Issues, Health ...


Therapy, Personality, Life

Yesterday, I had a whole-day fun-filled, interactive university lecture/seminar on psychotherapy and personality before 200+ psychology students over at RTU in Manila. Celine, Jovic, and their team did excellent organizing, which brought memories of my years in undergraduate psychology (not too ...

Oct 10

Categories: Happiness, Personality problems, Workplace Issues


Nothing Is As Healing As Human Touch

People do get addicted. And the reason why they can't just quit is because they get a kind of relief - temporarily. Turning to material, visible, or concrete things somehow work to make the pain of unmet needs go away. Unfortunately, they're not reliable. They change and we can know what to ...

Sep 9

Categories: Addictions, Adult psychological development, Antisocial personality


Your Certificate of Self Worth

As a psychotherapist, I've become convinced that more than half of the emotional pains we suffer in life are totally unnecessary. A lot of these unnecessary pains are caused by a wounded sense of self worth. And so often, a wounded self worth is accompanied by constant negative self talks, ...

Sep 2

Categories: Identity Problems, Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Esteem


Psychopathology of Evil

  One time, I had a long counseling session with a distraught couple. Things started to get hairy when the husband and wife related to me about unexplainable, “supernatural” appearances happening in their home.  Just several days ago, the wife (along with a companion) said ...

Jul 18

Categories: Adult psychological development, Couple Counseling, Fear


A Key To Your Highest Self

Last night, a few of my friends met up an accident prior to their arrival in the restaurant where we set a dinner fellowship. Already delayed, they still had to go to the police station to file a report. When, finally, they arrived, I was smiling at them. Jokingly, I asked them, "What lesson ...

Jun 15

Categories: Adult psychological development, Self-Care / Self Compassion, ...


Death and Psychotherapy

  All people will die. We all go to the grave, sooner or later. No one is exempted. Death then is an "anxiety" common to the entire humankind regardless of one's status in life. I'm reminded of my younger sister who died several years ago. While speaking to her in the ICU ...

Jun 1

Categories: Aging & Geriatric Issues, Anxiety, Bereavement


Psychotherapy in the Coffee Shop

I do many of my psychotherapy sessions in the coffee shop. That may sound surprising and even strange to you. Especially, if you're the traditional type who dislikes innovation or "outside the box." ...

May 27

Categories: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Happiness, Life Purpose / Meaning / ...


Living A Life ... Or NonLife?

The first thing I noticed about Tom was his large frame and piercing eyes. He had come to call me on my mobile phone a few hours ago. And now, we were in a hotel, drinking coffee, and eventually past the pleasantries.He reached for the marrow of his purpose for meeting me. “I need help for ...

May 2

Categories: Addictions, Attachment Issues, Infidelity


Solitude Therapy

Each of us is alone. In our human existence, aloneness is an inevitable fact of life. We entered this world alone. We will exit this world alone.I've discovered in my life and in the life of others that how we embrace our aloneness determines whether it will be toxic or nourishing.Toxic ...

May 1

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Adult psychological ...


Are you worth the money for therapy?

  There is this man who claims he has no money for therapy. He owns a car and condominium unit, smokes 3 packs of cigarettes a day, and dines out in expensive restaurants. If he sets aside funds even just by stopping smoking, he could afford to pay for his weekly personal therapy.Doctors ...

Apr 29

Categories: Happiness, Self-Care / Self Compassion


Working Through Damaged Emotions

Feelings are a crucial part of the inner life. When one is psychologically disturbed or traumatized, feelings become vulnerable. A person may lose touch of the reality of his feelings. He can be alienated from his feelings.Yet these feelings don't go away. They continue to appear or surface. ...

Apr 27

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse


The Brain and Emotions

  I’m reminded of one of Dr. Sigmund Freud’s psychodynamic concepts, “ego defenses.” Ego defenses are inhibiting internal mechanisms that prevent us from “knowing” early emotional pain through rationalizing, analyzing, explaining away, minimizing, ...

Apr 23

Categories: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Intelligence


Blog Writer:

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at www.drsubida.com.

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines