What Forces Couples to Head for a Splitsville? Reveals Marriage Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo

Published on November 7, 2022

What Forces Couples to Head for a Splitsville

There comes a moment in every marriage when couples are not able to be on the same page with each other. Whatever your partner says or does frustrates, annoys, or makes you jump with anger. This time period is damaging and detrimental to the dynamics of marriage, which is entirely about trust, honesty, understanding, and respect.


Every couple can agree to the reality that after a point, love is not essential to sustain a marriage, but understanding, respect, and honesty are. When these aspects no longer stand tall in the relationship, it is then time the lines start to blur. The couple begins hiding their respective feelings from each other, leading to a wide range of secrets, emotional imbalances, chances of infidelity, and a lot more. The lack of communication is also one of the major factors why most unhappy couples fail to understand the problems between themselves.

And so, identifying the possible factors why a couple is unhappy or unsatisfied is an important step toward resolving the issues. Here are some of the several possible reasons opines Shivani Sadhoo:

  • Poor or no communication
  • Financial and monetary stress
  • Jealousy and self-centric feelings
  • Lack of emotional, mental, and physical intimacy
  • Commitment issues
  • Setting unrealistic expectations in marriage
  • Compatibility factors
  • Lack of assistance or efforts
  • Blaming each other

When these factors seep into the deep crevices of any marriage, the couple looks for paths to separate or file a divorce case. But it is not every day that you see all unhappy couples separating. In spite of having huge differences, several couples decide to stay with each other, facing misery, sorrow, and gloom. So, what is it that generally, stops these couples from separating? There are a couple of significant reasons: kids and society.


Yes, that is correct. Married couples think about their kid’s future and how society will react, prior to thinking of separating. These two reasons make it quite complicated for unhappy couples to act on their problems When it comes to children, couples cannot bear the thought of their children growing up in separate homes, having different cultures, lifestyles, and values.


Research also suggests that the separation or divorce of parents has gravely affected children. The kid has to deal with the shock and repeated arguments, blame games, and several other things. The parents and child also go through severe emotional turmoil that later creeps into confusion, sadness, anger, and helplessness.

Psychologists majorly have stated fear of change, and staying alone are the topmost reasons why unhappy couples continue to stay together. Research indicates that fear is probably why couples would prefer staying with each other, for a lifetime of disappointment and unhappiness, instead of staying alone. Fear of criticism or judgment from society is another reason couples avoid heading for splitsville.

Couples also agree to stay with each other when there is good financial and mental stability in the marriage. Even if love no longer is a prominent part of the marriage, stability holds the ground and foundation for a good marriage.


This blog from Shivani Misri Sadhoo who is a top marriage counselor in India talks about the factors that pave the way for divorce or separation.

Category(s):Couple Counseling, Ending a relationship issues, Marital Counseling, Pre-Marital Counseling, Relationships & Marriage, Relaxation techniques

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Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo

Shivani Misri Sadhoo is of Delhi's eminent Psychologist, Relationship expert and marriage counselor and works with India 's top hospital groups like Fortis Hospital, IBS (Indian Brain