What Trauma Therapy Is and Isn't

Published on October 30, 2022

Trauma therapy is for those struggling with hypervigilance, anxiety, agitation, relationship struggles, past abuse, grief, loss, custody, divorce, and lack of trust in themselves and others. Past abuse and trauma can make us feel insecure and unsafe. It can also harm our self-worth and our relationships. You are the only person who can tell you if something was a trauma. Everyone reacts differently to different traumas and losses. Therefore, you only need to process potential traumas if they affect you.


Trauma therapy helps you to desensitize painful flashbacks, nightmares, and intrusive thoughts after a loss, abuse, or trauma. Some people are concerned that they will uncover a repressed memory if they process what is causing them distress. However, repressed memories have been discredited by psychologist Elizabeth Loftus. Therefore, the memories that you desensitize are memories that you are already aware of. The point is to be able to talk about the memory or think about the memory without distress. The felt sense becomes an awareness that the event happened in the past, and you are now safe in the present moment.

Balancing out Your Mind and Body

According to the book “The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel Can Der Kolk, trauma is stored in our body. When we think of traumatic memory, we might feel hypervigilant or nauseous. Often when people have desensitized to these memories in therapy, they can relive them. Some people might be afraid of this process. However, processing these memories with a trusted mental health professional can help you to have fewer flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, and agitation. The alternative is to have these traumatic memories intrude into your mind when triggered. Processing memories is less distressing than a flashback or a nightmare because a trained trauma professional can ease the distress through different methods. Trauma therapy helps to release the trauma and stress from your body, balancing your mind and body. In turn, this decreases hypervigilance, agitation, and anxiety.

Different Trauma therapies

Some trauma therapies include cognitive behavioral therapycognitive processing therapy, somatic therapieswritten exposure therapyEMDR, and Brainspotting. Cognitive behavioral and cognitive processing therapy helps you understand how thought distortions lead to different moods. Our thoughts dictate how we feel and how we behave. EMDR and brainspotting use your eyes to process traumatic memories. EMDR and brainspotting also focus on negative thoughts that might make you feel anxious, depressed, or unsafe. Somatic therapies, brainspotting, and EMDR concentrate on releasing the trauma through your body. Written exposure therapy desensitizes trauma through writing. Brainspotting, EMDR, and body scans are less distressing than talk therapy because the focus is on the body.

If you feel like past abuse, trauma or loss has lowered your self-worth, harmed your relationships, or caused you distress, I would love to help.

Contact me to set up an online session by calling the MindNLife Clinic at 2521 4668 or emailing info@doctormonicaborschel.com.

Category(s):Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Caregiver Issues / Stress, Depression, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD, Social Anxiety / Phobia, Stress Management

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships.

As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery.

Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma.

I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner.

I can help you develop new attachment strategies that will allow you to form deeper connections and bonds with those around you. And, if you have children, I can also assist you in establishing secure attachments with both parents, which can be especially helpful in cases of separation or divorce.

I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching.

These tools, combined with my extensive knowledge and experience in the field, enable me to offer you the guidance and support you need to recover from past traumas and build healthy relationships.

My approach to therapy is empathetic, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. Every person can grow, and thrive. I am committed to helping you achieve your goals. So, whether you are struggling with relationship issues, divorce, abuse, attachment traumas, or other challenges, I am here to help you find the peace and comfort you deserve.

Email me at info@doctormonicaborschel.com or call the MindnLife Clinic at 852 2521 4668

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