Published on April 21, 2022

Francine Shapiro created eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).  One day as she was walking and thinking, she noticed that her eyes were shifting back and forth, from left to right.   As her eyes moved, she felt less negative emotion when remembering her distressing memories.  She became curious and developed a therapy that combined eye movements with a cognitive component.  She started to test her eye movement therapy on veterans.  Her research was innovative and helpful for decreasing anxiety, symptoms of trauma and PTSD.  



David Grand learned EMDR from Francine Shapiro and added a layer of creativity and innovation.  For example, while doing EMDR, he noticed that people looked specifically in a particular direction.  From there, he came up with Brainspotting.  Brainspotting works with the deep brain and the body through its direct access to the autonomic and limbic systems within the body’s central nervous system and, therefore, can profoundly impact a person’s psychological, emotional, and physical well-being.  The brainspotting therapist guides the client to activate and process their feelings, memories, anxieties and traumas using the direction of the clients’ eye gaze.

Francine Shapiro and David Grand were able to create these innovative therapies by being self-aware and aware of how others behave, think and feel.  These therapies use the eyes to access the limbic system to decrease anxiety, trauma and suffering.  They can be intense as sometimes reliving is a part of the healing process.  After the sessions, you might need to use your creativity and innovation to ease emotional pain, decompress, and desensitize painful memories.  Here are some things to consider to guide you towards using your creativity in healing

  1. Awareness of emotions – When we are on autopilot, we tend to push our needs and feelings to the side.  What does anger, sadness, stress, and worry feel like in your body?  What are some things that make you angry, sad, worried or stressed?  What times of day are you more likely to feel these negative emotions?  Are there certain people that you find yourself frustrated around?  What does this feeling remind you of?
  2. Regulating the emotions – Now that you are aware of your feelings, how will you regulate yourself?  Being able to handle your feelings means that you can function without lashing out, raging, becoming overly depressed or anxious.  In addition, you can use creativity to help you observe your emotions without drowning in them.


Using creativity to heal –  There are ways that you can use your imagination, hobbies or talents to recover.  For example, some people find it helpful to write stories, poems, dramas or keep a diary.  In comparison, others might feel that they release stress through dance, music, art, exercise and martial arts.  

  1. Imagery – Imagery can be a powerful tool if you are feeling stuck.  For example, if you want to feel peace, when is the last time you felt totally at ease?  Who were you with, and what were you doing?  Can you also feel it in your body if you imagine the memory?  
  2. Plans and Opportunities – If you are struggling with anxiety or stress, develop a plan.  Writing out solutions on a paper, either in a list or mindmap, can offer clarity and hope.  What is the opportunity for this change?  Is there room for personal development?  What fears are holding you back?



If you find aspects of your life overwhelming or challenging, a therapist can help.  An EMDR or Brainspotting therapist can help you access fear, memories and trauma in a safe environment.  After the sessions, creativity and innovation will help you get your life back on track.  For example, a therapist can help you understand why your relationships tend to be troublesome.  They can provide you with insight into your behaviour and offer tools to get your relationships back on track.  From there, it might take your creativity to implement date nights or dating strategies.  

Past trauma can feel less heavy after trauma therapy.  Still, reliving of some of the memories might make you feel tense or anxious.  Using your creativity and talents can help release the tension in your body, bring awareness to your emotions, and help you regulate yourself.  In turn, sleeping, eating and communication will improve.  

Writing, artistic, or kinesthetic talents can increase your confidence.  After abuse, self-worth tends to drop.  We tend to enjoy things that we are good at, and the more we do these things, the better we become.  Writing out your story can help you to get another perspective.  Art can help you release emotions in the form of colour or shape.  Dancing and Martial arts can help relieve any stress or tension stuck in your body.  


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Category(s):Anxiety, Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD, Relationships & Marriage

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships.

As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery.

Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma.

I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner.

I can help you develop new attachment strategies that will allow you to form deeper connections and bonds with those around you. And, if you have children, I can also assist you in establishing secure attachments with both parents, which can be especially helpful in cases of separation or divorce.

I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching.

These tools, combined with my extensive knowledge and experience in the field, enable me to offer you the guidance and support you need to recover from past traumas and build healthy relationships.

My approach to therapy is empathetic, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. Every person can grow, and thrive. I am committed to helping you achieve your goals. So, whether you are struggling with relationship issues, divorce, abuse, attachment traumas, or other challenges, I am here to help you find the peace and comfort you deserve.

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