Come as you are - the beauty of online mental health

Published on November 17, 2021

Aria had just hit crash.  She had worked five twelve-hour days in a row.  She felt like she could barely lift her arms and legs.  She lay there in complete brain fog, unable to do anything.  Aria had become a bit of a workaholic to avoid the emotional pain she felt after a violent assault. As a result, she often felt tense and hypervigilant, which would give her muscle soreness and fatigue.  She knew she needed to reach out for help, but when would she find the time?

Leah had been sick for a while.  During this time, she was bedridden, which led to her feeling depressed.  As her health recovered, her energy did not.  She knew that she needed to speak to someone, but where would she get the energy?

Mateo was a local celebrity who felt like the pressure was leading him to want to drink more.  His physical health mattered to him, so he knew he needed to seek help.  But where could he go where he wouldn’t be seen?

The beauty of online mental health is that you can come as you are, where you are.  Here are some of the additional benefits of online therapy.

  1. You can be as comfortable as you need to be: If you aren’t feeling well, just waking up, or had a long day, you can wear comfortable clothes and sit where you feel comfortable.  You can make yourself a tea or have your pet with you.  This can be exceptionally comforting if you are grieving or processing trauma.
  2. Safety: Sometimes, when people are processing trauma, they worry about getting home if they dissociate or have a flashback.  Online allows you to process these intense memories from the safety of your own home.
  3. Save time: Online saves you time on transportation.  The time you save you can use to find a better work-life balance.  Part of healing is allowing yourself to have time for yourself.
  4. Come as you are: Come tired, scared, underdressed, overdressed, just come as you are.  Allowing yourself to enter an online therapy just as you are can feel accepting and empowering.  Who would you be if there weren’t any social or religious norms?  If you didn’t need to dress for anyone else?

If you feel like you need to talk to someone, then please do contact me to set up an online session via email

Category(s):Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Depression, Ending a relationship issues, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Mental Health in Asia, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

My goal is to help you out of the pain you are feeling from abuse, loss, and unhealthy relationships. I understand how scary it is in the darkness, and I want to help you transition back into the light.

I have helped hundreds of individuals go from suffering to thriving. I have studied the effects of abuse, loss, and unhealthy relationships on self-worth, trust, depression, and anxiety for almost fifteen years. My education and clinical experience have enabled my clients to understand their worth, make positive changes in their relationships and careers, and have more confidence.

I specialize in attachment, trauma, and loss. I am experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, and loss. This may include deciding what is in the children’s best interest during disputes and strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children. As an attachment specialist, I help individuals understand and deal with relationship patterns that prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships.

I am from Salt Lake City, Utah. I graduated with my master’s in psychology from Columbia University in New York City. I pursued her doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I live in California and am working on my PsyD at California Southern University.

Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology (HKSCP). Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), and the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA).

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