Come as you are - the beauty of online mental health

Published on November 17, 2021

Aria had just hit crash.  She had worked five twelve-hour days in a row.  She felt like she could barely lift her arms and legs.  She lay there in complete brain fog, unable to do anything.  Aria had become a bit of a workaholic to avoid the emotional pain she felt after a violent assault. As a result, she often felt tense and hypervigilant, which would give her muscle soreness and fatigue.  She knew she needed to reach out for help, but when would she find the time?

Leah had been sick for a while.  During this time, she was bedridden, which led to her feeling depressed.  As her health recovered, her energy did not.  She knew that she needed to speak to someone, but where would she get the energy?

Mateo was a local celebrity who felt like the pressure was leading him to want to drink more.  His physical health mattered to him, so he knew he needed to seek help.  But where could he go where he wouldn’t be seen?

The beauty of online mental health is that you can come as you are, where you are.  Here are some of the additional benefits of online therapy.

  1. You can be as comfortable as you need to be: If you aren’t feeling well, just waking up, or had a long day, you can wear comfortable clothes and sit where you feel comfortable.  You can make yourself a tea or have your pet with you.  This can be exceptionally comforting if you are grieving or processing trauma.
  2. Safety: Sometimes, when people are processing trauma, they worry about getting home if they dissociate or have a flashback.  Online allows you to process these intense memories from the safety of your own home.
  3. Save time: Online saves you time on transportation.  The time you save you can use to find a better work-life balance.  Part of healing is allowing yourself to have time for yourself.
  4. Come as you are: Come tired, scared, underdressed, overdressed, just come as you are.  Allowing yourself to enter an online therapy just as you are can feel accepting and empowering.  Who would you be if there weren’t any social or religious norms?  If you didn’t need to dress for anyone else?

If you feel like you need to talk to someone, then please do contact me to set up an online session via email info@doctormonicaborschel.com.


Category(s):Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Depression, Ending a relationship issues, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Mental Health in Asia, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships.

As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery.

Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma.

I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner.

I can help you develop new attachment strategies that will allow you to form deeper connections and bonds with those around you. And, if you have children, I can also assist you in establishing secure attachments with both parents, which can be especially helpful in cases of separation or divorce.

I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching.

These tools, combined with my extensive knowledge and experience in the field, enable me to offer you the guidance and support you need to recover from past traumas and build healthy relationships.

My approach to therapy is empathetic, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. Every person can grow, and thrive. I am committed to helping you achieve your goals. So, whether you are struggling with relationship issues, divorce, abuse, attachment traumas, or other challenges, I am here to help you find the peace and comfort you deserve.

Email me at info@doctormonicaborschel.com or call the MindnLife Clinic at 852 2521 4668