It was then that he realized he was unbreakable

Published on October 28, 2021

Ryan grew up in the foster system.  There were pleasant and not so friendly foster homes.  He was in and out of the juvenile hall for crimes he committed to make ends meet.  Ryan’s basketball coach, Derek, understood Ryan’s situation, and he wanted him to turn Ryan’s life around.  He could see his potential. So Derek began mentoring Ryan to improve his grades and stay out of trouble.  Ryan was able to maintain his grades, but he had a hard time staying off the streets.  He didn’t feel like he had a lot of options; he had to survive.

By the time Ryan was twenty years old, a friend had been shot and killed, three friends had died of drug overdoses, and two were in prison.  He didn’t want to go down the same path. Instead, Ryan found full-time work and went to school part-time.  He fell in love and quickly married and had a child.  The financial stress was overwhelming.  But Ryan refused to go back to the street.  He looked back at all the trauma and abuse that he had been through and realized he was resilient.  He made it out; he survived.  He learned so much about people and the business of crime that he felt he could be a legitimate entrepreneur.

It was then; he realized he was unbreakable.  He had been through more than the average person, but he was still standing.  He had seen and learned things on the streets that most people won’t learn in a lifetime. Ryan was unbreakable, but he was anxious.  The thought of networking with people to start his business was intimidating.

Ryan consulted a professional who helped him to overcome his anxiety.  Ryan had developed deep trust issues, and it was standing in the way of him forming professional relationships.  With help, Ryan was able to thrive and reach his potential.


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Category(s):Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Attachment Issues, Complex PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD

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Dr Monica Borschel

My goal is to help you out of the pain that you are feeling from abuse, loss, and unhealthy relationships and into loving yourself and your life again. I understand how scary it is in the darkness and I want to help you transition back into the light. Do you feel invisible? I can help you to feel seen and heard again.

I have helped hundreds of individuals go from suffering to thriving. I have studied the effects of abuse, loss, and unhealthy relationships on self-worth, trust, depression, and anxiety for almost fifteen years. My education and clinical experience have enabled my clients to understand their own worth, make positive changes in their relationships and careers, and have more confidence.

I specialize in attachment, trauma, and loss. I am experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, and loss. This may include deciding what is in the children’s best interest during disputes and strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children. As an attachment specialist, I help individuals understand and deal with relationship patterns that prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships.

I have had the privilege of working with people from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and experiences. I am from Salt Lake City, Utah. I graduated with my master’s in psychology from Columbia University in New York City. I pursued her doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I live in California and work on my PsyD at California Southern University.

Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology (HKSCP). Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), and the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA).

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