This is your hour…so what would you like to talk about?

Published on October 13, 2021

“Hi, it’s nice to meet you.  I have never done this before. I am not sure what to say or how to start.”

“That’s all right.  What can I help you with?”

“Where should I start?”

“Start with what brought you here today.”

“Oh, it’s nothing; I don’t like my job anymore.  I feel bullied by my manager, and I can’t see a way out.  My self-esteem has hit rock bottom lately.  I feel tired all the time, and I do not want to get out of bed on the weekends.  What is the point?  I am just going to end up cleaning the house all day.”

The more Janice spoke, the more relieved she felt. She realized that what was bothering her was that she felt unappreciated at home and work.   Talking to someone who was objective and neutral helped her to say what was really on her mind.

Looking for a professional to speak to can be a daunting task.  You might feel like you aren’t suffering enough to deserve help; you are just stressed.  Some questions to ask yourself are

  1. Is there something you want to speak about with someone that you don’t feel others will understand?
  2. Is there something that you keep stressing about and can’t find a way to solve it?
  3. Is there something you continue to speak about with others, but they act like they are tired of hearing it?
  4. Have your family and friends advised you to seek help?
  5. Has your self-esteem or mood taken a turn for the worse?
  6. Are you in conflict with family, friends, or co-workers?
  7. Are you trying to figure out who you are and where you are headed?

When you take an hour to invest in yourself, you might find that talking to someone can help you to clarify your thoughts. In addition, a professional can offer tools to help you thrive.

To book a session with Dr Monica Borschel please call the MindNLife clinic at +852 2521 4668 or email

Category(s):Anxiety, Complex PTSD, Mental Health in Asia, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD, Stress Management

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Dr Borschel specialises in Attachment and Loss. She is experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, or loss of a loved one.

Dr. Borschel’s attachment-based therapy along with EMDR and brainspotting, enables her clients to find healing within themselves. In so doing, she can help adults, teens, and children to overcome grief, anxiety, trauma, neglect, emotional, verbal, physical abuse, and child abuse.

Furthermore, as an attachment specialist, she also helps individuals understand relationship patterns which prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. She is able to help reduce anxiety, insomnia, depression and promote confidence and self-esteem. This may include deciding what is in the best interest of the children during custody disputes, strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children.

Dr. Borschel is originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, U.S.A. She graduated with her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University in New York City. She later moved to Hong Kong to pursue her doctorate at the University of Hong Kong in Social Work and Social Administration.

Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology. Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA) and EMDRIA certified therapist.

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