Search For Happiness

Published on February 12, 2021

It's in our hearts and minds all the time: the search for happiness.

Carol knows it too well. 

She almost tried everything - work, career, money, husband, kids, public recognition, among others.
One time, Carol asked her husband for a bigger (and expensive) car. Hers was small. And she’s not happy and content with it.
When her husband explained about budget concerns, she became furious. Putting up an emotional tantrum.
Carol’s unhappiness shows up like that from time to time. There’s an inner void that aches whenever she doesn’t get what she wants.
“I should have done something more,” said another client Rovi, about his son’s death during a car accident.
He’s been tormenting himself for years now because his son died when he’s the one driving the car that fateful night.
Encased within Rovi is an illusion. A thought that it was all within his power and control what happened.
It is never easy to find true happiness within. But it’s not possible to find it outside or elsewhere.
One aspect of this truth is the twin issue of contentment and control. 
Crystal Paine once wrote,  “Contentment is a state of the heart, unaffected by outward circumstances.”
Many times, we search for true happiness from externals which happen to be very fleeting sources. And therefore, outside our control.
Internals - our inner soul and spirit, mind, and heart - that’s where you find the source of true, lasting happiness. It’s an area within our control.
Are you still in search for true happiness?
It’s an inside job.

Category(s):Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Adult psychological development, Happiness

Written by:

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo O. Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines