What can I expect in therapy?

Published on January 8, 2021

Ryan never believed in therapy.  He felt that it was for people with severe mental illness, and that was not him.  He also did not think that it was masculine to speak about his feelings.  He would rather suck it up and meet his friends down at the bar to have a beer.

When Ryan’s father passed away, he began to collapse within himself.  He was raised by a single father who had physically abused him as a form of punishment.  Ryan often rebelled against his father because of this.  He had said some hurtful things to his father before he passed away.  Now he was overcome with guilt to the point that it was hard to focus on a day to day basis.  His girlfriend asked him to please speak to someone.  He was hesitant. How could a therapist help? He didn’t know what to say, or what to expect.

Here are some things to help you understand therapy better before you take those first brave steps:

1. Who is therapy for?

Therapy can be for anyone: Everyone has stress or situations that they might need help navigating. It can be workplace conflict, loss, trauma, anxiety, family conflict, or any other stressor that seems to be confusing or painful.

2. What are the initial steps?

Your therapist will start by asking you what your therapy goals are or how they can help you. This might include getting a family history, childhood experiences and relationship background.

3. Creating a treatment plan

You and your therapist will decide on a treatment plan and frequency of sessions. Be honest about your availability so that the therapist can come up with a plan that works for your time and budget.

4. A non judgemental space

Your therapist is there to help and not to judge. People often worry about being overanalyzed or judged.  That is not helpful for anyone and is not the therapist’s role.

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If you feel like you need to talk to someone then please do contact me to set up an appointment via email info@doctormonicaborschel.com.  I can offer both an online session via Skype or a face to face session.

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Category(s):Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Physical Abuse, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD, Sexual Abuse

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships.

As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery.

Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma.

I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner.

I can help you develop new attachment strategies that will allow you to form deeper connections and bonds with those around you. And, if you have children, I can also assist you in establishing secure attachments with both parents, which can be especially helpful in cases of separation or divorce.

I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching.

These tools, combined with my extensive knowledge and experience in the field, enable me to offer you the guidance and support you need to recover from past traumas and build healthy relationships.

My approach to therapy is empathetic, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. Every person can grow, and thrive. I am committed to helping you achieve your goals. So, whether you are struggling with relationship issues, divorce, abuse, attachment traumas, or other challenges, I am here to help you find the peace and comfort you deserve.

Email me at info@doctormonicaborschel.com or call the MindnLife Clinic at 852 2521 4668