What can I expect in therapy?

Published on January 8, 2021

Ryan never believed in therapy.  He felt that it was for people with severe mental illness, and that was not him.  He also did not think that it was masculine to speak about his feelings.  He would rather suck it up and meet his friends down at the bar to have a beer.

When Ryan’s father passed away, he began to collapse within himself.  He was raised by a single father who had physically abused him as a form of punishment.  Ryan often rebelled against his father because of this.  He had said some hurtful things to his father before he passed away.  Now he was overcome with guilt to the point that it was hard to focus on a day to day basis.  His girlfriend asked him to please speak to someone.  He was hesitant. How could a therapist help? He didn’t know what to say, or what to expect.

Here are some things to help you understand therapy better before you take those first brave steps:

1. Who is therapy for?

Therapy can be for anyone: Everyone has stress or situations that they might need help navigating. It can be workplace conflict, loss, trauma, anxiety, family conflict, or any other stressor that seems to be confusing or painful.

2. What are the initial steps?

Your therapist will start by asking you what your therapy goals are or how they can help you. This might include getting a family history, childhood experiences and relationship background.

3. Creating a treatment plan

You and your therapist will decide on a treatment plan and frequency of sessions. Be honest about your availability so that the therapist can come up with a plan that works for your time and budget.

4. A non judgemental space

Your therapist is there to help and not to judge. People often worry about being overanalyzed or judged.  That is not helpful for anyone and is not the therapist’s role.


If you feel like you need to talk to someone then please do contact me to set up an appointment via email info@doctormonicaborschel.com.  I can offer both an online session via Skype or a face to face session.

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Category(s):Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Physical Abuse, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD, Sexual Abuse

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Registered Clinical Psychologist (HK)

Dr. Borschel specializes in Attachment, trauma and Loss. She is experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, loss of a loved one, and loss of finance. This may include deciding what is in the best interest of the children during custody disputes, strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children.

From Nov 2020 Dr. Borschel is only available for online consultations.

Dr. Borschel’s attachment-based therapy along with EMDR and Brainspotting enables her clients to find healing within themselves. In so doing, she can help her clients to overcome anxiety, trauma, neglect, emotional, verbal, physical abuse, and child abuse.

Furthermore, as an attachment specialist, she also helps individuals understand relationship patterns which prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. She is able to help reduce anxiety, insomnia, depression and promote confidence and self-esteem.

Dr. Borschel is originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, U.S.A. She graduated with her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University in New York City. She later moved to Hong Kong to pursue her doctorate at the University of Hong Kong in Social Work and Social Administration.

Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology (HKSCP). Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), and the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA).

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