You are More than Your IQ

Published on January 8, 2021

Ricky struggled in school for most of his life.  In primary school, he would battle to focus on what the teacher was saying; he felt like homework was boring. His parents would often be disappointed when he would bring home his report card.  Ricky felt his confidence decreasing. Ricky was overplaying his academic ability and underplaying his athletic and artistic skills.

Ricky had kinesthetic knowledge, he learned by doing.  He was able to use the feelings in his body to become an athlete and a painter who could express emotion through his artwork.  When Ricky decided to focus on his strengths, he was able to get into art school and eventually sell his paintings to support himself.

Cherry also struggled academically when she got to middle school.  In primary school, she did so well that when she started to struggle in middle school, she started to believe that she was stupid.  However, Cherry had high emotional intelligence, which she used to network and attune to others.  Her social abilities helped her to find her passion in psychology.  Her high empathy enabled her to become a popular therapist.

Ryan was raised by a single father, who was unable to spend a lot of time at home.  His father had to work late to make ends meet.  Ryan felt neglected and started acting out at school.  His grades dropped, and he hung out with the wrong crowd. Being in trouble with the law and at school helped Ryan develop knowledge of how society works, and who he could and could not trust.  His struggle helped him to build grit, which then enabled him to become an entrepreneur.  Years later, he used his street knowledge and determination to become a successful salesman for his new company.

Some of us have been taught that if we want to be successful in life, we need to do well academically.  Academic pressure can be so immense that if we don’t get straight A’s, we might feel like we won’t amount to much.  There are multiple forms of intelligence, and understanding what types of intelligence you have, can help build your confidence.  Using your different kind of intelligence can also help you to be ok with who you are.  Maximizing your strengths can help you to find a more rewarding life path.


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Category(s):Academic Issues, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Registered Clinical Psychologist (HK)

Dr. Borschel specializes in Attachment, trauma and Loss. She is experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, loss of a loved one, and loss of finance. This may include deciding what is in the best interest of the children during custody disputes, strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children.

From Nov 2020 Dr. Borschel is only available for online consultations.

Dr. Borschel’s attachment-based therapy along with EMDR and Brainspotting enables her clients to find healing within themselves. In so doing, she can help her clients to overcome anxiety, trauma, neglect, emotional, verbal, physical abuse, and child abuse.

Furthermore, as an attachment specialist, she also helps individuals understand relationship patterns which prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. She is able to help reduce anxiety, insomnia, depression and promote confidence and self-esteem.

Dr. Borschel is originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, U.S.A. She graduated with her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University in New York City. She later moved to Hong Kong to pursue her doctorate at the University of Hong Kong in Social Work and Social Administration.

Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology (HKSCP). Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), and the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA).

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