You are More than Your IQ

Published on January 8, 2021

Ricky struggled in school for most of his life.  In primary school, he would battle to focus on what the teacher was saying; he felt like homework was boring. His parents would often be disappointed when he would bring home his report card.  Ricky felt his confidence decreasing. Ricky was overplaying his academic ability and underplaying his athletic and artistic skills.

Ricky had kinesthetic knowledge, he learned by doing.  He was able to use the feelings in his body to become an athlete and a painter who could express emotion through his artwork.  When Ricky decided to focus on his strengths, he was able to get into art school and eventually sell his paintings to support himself.

Cherry also struggled academically when she got to middle school.  In primary school, she did so well that when she started to struggle in middle school, she started to believe that she was stupid.  However, Cherry had high emotional intelligence, which she used to network and attune to others.  Her social abilities helped her to find her passion in psychology.  Her high empathy enabled her to become a popular therapist.

Ryan was raised by a single father, who was unable to spend a lot of time at home.  His father had to work late to make ends meet.  Ryan felt neglected and started acting out at school.  His grades dropped, and he hung out with the wrong crowd. Being in trouble with the law and at school helped Ryan develop knowledge of how society works, and who he could and could not trust.  His struggle helped him to build grit, which then enabled him to become an entrepreneur.  Years later, he used his street knowledge and determination to become a successful salesman for his new company.

Some of us have been taught that if we want to be successful in life, we need to do well academically.  Academic pressure can be so immense that if we don’t get straight A’s, we might feel like we won’t amount to much.  There are multiple forms of intelligence, and understanding what types of intelligence you have, can help build your confidence.  Using your different kind of intelligence can also help you to be ok with who you are.  Maximizing your strengths can help you to find a more rewarding life path.


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Category(s):Academic Issues, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships.

As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery.

Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma.

I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner.

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I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching.

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