What Do I Do With My Mistakes?

Published on December 11, 2019


The Roman philosopher Cicero once wrote, “Man is liable to error, and it is a fool who continues in error.”


Undoubtedly, Cicero’s words were a sound psychotherapeutic life principle. 


We all make mistakes. It’s human. We’re all imperfect and not infallible. 


The absolute ability not to commit errors or mistakes is not within the capacity of human beings. 


Often, we make errors or mistakes in life “outside awareness.”  It’s unconscious. They then lead to unnecessary emotional pain or suffering. 


I like what Rumi said in his “Masnawi:”


“You will certainly make mistakes unconsciously. At least don’t make them consciously.”


Only when we become conscious of our errors and mistakes can we start to change into what’s better and healthy.


In my session with Mark last night, with his wife, he spoke of his so-called “old normalcy” and “new normalcy.”


Insightfully, he said that his past “old normalcy” was full of errors and mistakes, which he had not been able to fully see as they were.


With psychotherapy, he evolved into becoming a better and healthier person - replacing the old with a “new normalcy.”


That “new normalcy,” according to him, has come to terms with the true realities of his life, devoid of or less susceptible to recurring bad and wrongful choices.


Fortunately, Mark chose to get wise. Unlike the fool, as Cicero put it, “who continues in error.”


“See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. 16 For I command you today to love the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to him, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the Lord your God will bless you in the land you are entering to possess.” (Deuteronomy 30: 15,16)




Category(s):Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Depression, Marital Counseling

Written by:

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at www.drsubida.com.

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines

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