Violence in marriage

Published on August 19, 2019

Violence in marriage –  By Dr Sunil Kumar Sharma

Violence or abusive behavior at home is any sort of conduct that a person uses, or undermines to use, to control a close accomplice. The two key components are risk and control. Aggressive behavior at home can take different structures that have been categorized into separate sections such as:

  1. Physical – Violent activities, for example, hitting, beating, pushing, and kicking. By and large physical mishandle turns out to be more severe and incessant after some time.
  2. Sexual – Includes any sexual demonstrations that are constrained on one accomplice by the other
  3. Mental – Includes an extensive variety of practices, for example, terrorizing, separating the casualty from loved ones, controlling where the victim goes, influencing the person to feel remorseful or insane, and making absurd requests.
  4. Enthusiastic – Undermining a person's confidence, consistent feedback, insults, put-downs, and ridicule. This is something which would hurt the emotion of the individual and create the difference in the relationship which would at the time ends the marriage as well.
  5. Monetary – Examples incorporate constraining the casualty's entrance to family salary, keeping the casualty from working or compelling the victim to work, pulverizing the casualty's property, and settling on all the money related choices

Types of casualties

Female, despite the fact those men can likewise encounter abusive behavior at home Ladies frequently remain with their abusers in light of dread. They are anxious about the possibility that the abuser will turn out to be more brutal if they attempt to take off. Some fear that they will lose their kids. Numerous trusts that they can't make it all alone.

Some mishandled ladies trust that manhandles is their blame. They surmise that they can stop mishandle if they merely act unexpectedly. Some can't concede that they are mistreated, ladies. Others feel compelled to remain in the relationship. They may feel cut off from social help and assets. Manhandled ladies frequently think that they are separated from everyone else, and have nowhere to turn for help.

Reasons behind such behavior?

Violent people originate from all kinds of different backgrounds. They might be useful in their vocation and regarded in their congregation and group. Oppressive people frequently share some standard qualities. They tend to be desirous, possessive and effortlessly infuriated. This is something that creates the discrimination in the feeling and when one of the partners becomes the victim of violence and thus further decided to get separated from the relationship.

Numerous oppressive men trust that ladies are second rated beings. They believe that men are intended to overwhelm and control ladies. Ordinarily, men who are guilty deny that they do mishandling or they limit it. They may accuse their accomplice of the mishandling, saying, "You influenced me." Liquor and medications are frequently connected with aggressive behavior at home however they don't cause it. A damaging man who beverages or utilizations drugs has two distinct issues: substance manhandle and brutality. Both must be dealt with.

Violence in any marriage will lead to stress, anger, and hatred feeling among each other. This will decrease the level of comfort and partner hesitate to take the conversation instead gets into the fights, and after some time it would ruin the entire married life. When all is said in done, kids who witness aggressive behavior at home in the home can endure a massive measure of physical indications alongside their passionate and behavioral condition of sadness. These kids may whine of general hurts and torment, for example, cerebral pains and stomach throbs. They may likewise have crabby and sporadic gut propensities, mouth blisters, and they may have issues with bed-wetting. These quarrels have been related to the depressive problem in youngsters, a typical enthusiastic impact of abusive behavior at home.

Alongside these general grumblings of not feeling great, youngsters who witness aggressive behavior at home may likewise seem apprehensive, as already specified, and have limited capacity to focus. These youngsters show a portion of indistinguishable manifestations from kids who have been determined to have consideration shortage hyperactivity issue.

On the switch, these kids may demonstrate manifestations of exhaustion and constant tiredness. They may nod off in school because of the absence of rest at home. A lot of their night might be burned through tuning in to or seeing viciousness inside the house. Offspring of abusive behavior at home casualties are every now and again sick and experience the ill effects of poor individual cleanliness.  This will affect the personality of the individual and at some time becomes sick.

The addiction seems to ruins the relationship and sometimes even sometimes ends the marriage as well. It has been noticed that person who is addicted to such activity has been rude in behavior and frequently loss temper on the small topics. The couples in which one of the people has been addicted have frequent fights and misunderstanding which can sometimes even ruined the whole relationship.

The other might feel unhappy and hesitate to talk which would widen the communication gap and diminished the feeling of love and happiness in the married life. There are some instances where the small fights convert into great happening, and thus it would be resulting in anger, depression and physical/mental abuse.

While the person is addicted to something, he tries to control such, but his intuition makes him go after it. When there is a child involved in the family, this addiction will become more complex and more desperate to handle. It is for the reason that when there are no children, the husband or wife can be separated with any string attached. However, when children come into the picture, it becomes messed up.


It can be concluded that violence dramatically affects the healthy of relationships due to which marriage can end up nowhere. However, some providers offer counseling services, and if you are a victim of such an issue, you must choose such services so that you will be able to get over this big problem with the help of experts.

Dr Sunil Kumar Sharma



Category(s):Anger Management, Domestic Violence, Marital Counseling

Written by:

Dr. Sunil Kumar Sharma

Dr. Sunil Kumar Sharma

Diploma Clinical Hypnotherapy (UK), MF Hom (UK) RS Hom (USA)

Mind Coach, Psychologist, Counselor, Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist, Consultant Homeopathy

Dr. Sunil Kumar Sharma belongs to Ethos Healthcare in India

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