The Heroes Journey

Published on August 5, 2019

It is probable, that at one point in a person’s life, they will feel stuck or lost.  Feeling stuck or lost can be a result of a major life event, loss or a trauma.  There might be times when we wonder if we are on the right path.  Throughout history and time, there have been stories of heroes who have overcome great odds.  Along the way, the hero must conquer fears to overcome and transform into something wiser and stronger.  Hollywood, religious texts, and mythology tell of great stories of heroes and heroines who defeat evil and succumb to the depths of hell only to conquer their demons and arise into a hero, sage or god.  These stories exaggerate but also exemplify the human experience.  

So how do you shed your fear, tolerate and conquer the frustration and come out as a calmer, wiser, and stronger person?  Here are some ideas to encourage personal growth.

Write a timeline of your life

The timeline can include anything that comes to your mind as being impactful. Look for relationships with others, relationship patterns, rejections, failures, successes, accomplishments, and significant life events.

What sticks out in your timeline?

Can you see how you have overcome obstacles? How are your relationships working or not working?

Resolve what has not been resolved

Is there any shame, regret or other emotions that need to be explored?  Do you need to ask for forgiveness, do you need to reach out to anyone? Do you have any shame?

Is there anything or anyone toxic in your life?

Is there anyone in your life that devalues you?  Are you abusing drugs or alcohol?  Is your work taking all of your time and energy?  Evaluate the toxicity in your life and figure out how to detox.

Express Gratitude

Who has helped and supported you along your journey? Send them a thank you note, be specific on how they supported you.


Are you feeling a little stuck or lost? If so a professional can help. To set up an appointment with Dr Borschel please contact +852 2521 4668 or email

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Category(s):Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Dr Borschel specialises in Attachment and Loss. She is experienced in helping adults, teens, children, and families adjust to anxiety, trauma, abuse, divorce, separation, or loss of a loved one.

Dr. Borschel’s attachment-based therapy along with EMDR and brainspotting, enables her clients to find healing within themselves. In so doing, she can help adults, teens, and children to overcome grief, anxiety, trauma, neglect, emotional, verbal, physical abuse, and child abuse.

Furthermore, as an attachment specialist, she also helps individuals understand relationship patterns which prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. She is able to help reduce anxiety, insomnia, depression and promote confidence and self-esteem. This may include deciding what is in the best interest of the children during custody disputes, strengthening the relationship and communication between the parents and the children.

Dr. Borschel is originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, U.S.A. She graduated with her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University in New York City. She later moved to Hong Kong to pursue her doctorate at the University of Hong Kong in Social Work and Social Administration.

Registered Clinical Psychologist with The Hong Kong Society of Counseling and Psychology. Member of the American Psychological Association (APA), The British Psychological Society (BPS), the Hong Kong Family Law Association (HKFLA) and EMDRIA certified therapist.

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