Can you press the pause button on life?

Published on June 20, 2018


Some of the messages in this video resonate so strongly that it is difficult to stick with it and watch the whole 5 minutes.

Do you have the courage to watch it all?

These messages play squarely in the addiction debate.

It's painful to recognise that at some level I am a slave of the tools I surround myself with. Sometime it is difficult to put the phone down. Sometime I even catch myself in the midst of a pointless browsing session, and I still have to consciously tell myself to get up and do something else.

One of the speakers in the video says, "because there is a biology to these things, that are as addictive as alcohol, nicotine and gambling". Really??? Are they???

Have you ever paused and wandered what statements like that mean?

Have you ever noticed how selective we are in attaching such adjective to various situations? For example, most people would say that drugs are addictive; most people would say that alcohol is addictive, and most people would say that gambling is addictive. We talk a lot about each of these, so it is fair to assume so.

Now, would you say that reading is addictive? What about work? What about love? What about eating? And daydreaming?

The point is that EVERYTHING can be addictive, not because everything has intrinsic characteristics that make it addictive, but because we are desperate to escape the solitude, the pain, the fears and the insecurities we experience within.

We make most things addictive because we don't have the courage to face the perceived negative aspects of ourselves and we'd rather take the easy route to numbness.

My reflection for us today is this...



and bring genuine, curious focus to those parts inside us we are shying away from.

Thank you for reading my article.

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Category(s):Addictions, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance

Written by:

Dr Oberdan Marianetti

Dr Oberdan Marianetti is the founder of Essence Coaching, and the creator of the EssenceĀ® model.

As a qualified Psychologist and Sexologist, Oberdan has successfully helped individuals and couples revive the excitement in their relationships and sex life.

He has a keen desire to help people reconnect with their true selves - their EssenceĀ® - and form meaningful connection with others.

Whether through private consultations or public workshops, Oberdan is committed to helping each individual rediscover the power and beauty of their own sexuality in an open, safe and non-judgemental environment.

With the experience accumulated from private practice, he brings new perspectives on intimacy and sexuality through highly engaging and informative presentations and workshops on sexuality, sex and relationships."

His work has been published by the British Psychological Society and Oxford University Press; he is a regular speaker and has developed his own Leadership model (Essence Leadership), which was featured in sector-specific publications and in TED.

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