Suicide and Soul Pain

Published on June 12, 2018


Recently, two well-loved celebrities committed suicide. The world is stunned and sad.


Kate Spade, Hollywood's 55-year-old fashion icon, hanged herself in her Park Avenue apartment. Just  a few days apart, 61-year-old traveling TV chef Anthony Bourdain took his life in a hotel in France.


The tragic news only demonstrates to us that suicide can afflict any one, including the rich and famous.


In my practice, suicidal individuals abound. Most of the time they feel confused about how to make sense of or understand what they're going through.


One time, a popular company CEO was talking with me and his wife about his planned suicide. He said that what he's feeling had become too painful to endure. He's losing hope.


Why this?


Dr. Harold Kushner explained that "life is not primarily a quest for pleasure, as Freud believed, or a quest for power, as Alfred Adler taught, but a quest for meaning."


King Solomon in Ecclesiastes wrote, "All the labors of a man's hand are for his mouth, but his soul goes unsatisfied."


Soul pain.


"People who are suicidal don't want to die; they just want the pain to stop," says writer Bria Barrows from a Psych Central article.


Focusing on worldly pursuits alone produces soul pain. It leaves us feeling empty. No meaning in our lives.


We can all experience this, at different thresholds. It's built into our human nature.


So when soul pain gets too unbearable over time, a person may snap. And he or she becomes a high risk for suicide and self-destruction.


Soul pain is real. Even more real than what is visible.


We all need to be aware of it in the whole of our lives. Do something about it. Seek help. Before it gets too late.

Category(s):Adult psychological development, Depression, Suicide Prevention

Written by:

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines

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