Reflections On Being Perfect

Published on December 6, 2016

It’s so easy to look in the mirror and think, rightly or wrongly, that we are a failure.

We are constantly judging ourselves by the standards that others have placed upon us. Wealth, body image, house location, children’s school, holiday destinations or clothing are only a few of the external factors by which we are measured and by which we measure ourselves.

Those are material, and easy to spot and address.

Then there are the other external expectations, the ones we internalise. They are of a different breed, and they go deep.

Be a good son, an engaged employee, a hot lover, a dutiful spouse, a devout disciple, a dedicated member of the community…these are all good for what they are, but not when we subscribe to them to satisfy others and against our inner nature and desires.

It's hard to always try and be perfect. The amount of energy we must expend is incredible and much of it goes towards maintaining a façade.

I say, f*#k maintaining the façade!

You are beautiful, lovable, smart, kind and important as you are!

A friend (thanks Robert) once gave me a fridge magnet with a message that was encouraging and confirming all at once, it said:

Risk more than others think is safe.

Care more than others think is wise.

Dream more than others think is practical.

Expect more than others think is possible.


At birth we were gifted with all the tools, the skills and the energy to be amazing human beings, amazing as we were intended to be, not like someone else thought we should be.

Go on that journey, reconnect to your Essence and go be the amazing human being you already are.

Design your own version of being a daughter, a husband, a business owner, an activist, a friend, a partner or a leader.

To my fellow entrepreneur I say, believe.

To my fellow men I say, there is only one way to being a modern man, your way.

To my fellow husbands I say, be open to receive as much as you give.

To my fellow fathers I say, allow yourself the space to learn how to be one.

To all I say, look in the mirror and admire your marvellous gorgeousness.

Be with love.


Thank you for reading my post.

I base my posts on real case studies and I regularly write about relationship, leadership and sexuality questions. If you would like to read my future posts, please join us here.

If you would like me to help you answer similar questions, please contact me here.


Category(s):Happiness, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Mindfulness

Written by:

Dr Oberdan Marianetti

Dr OM opened in Singapore 2015 to serve the local community on all their relationship and sexuality challenges.

Intrigued by the secrets of the mind, Dr Oberdan first qualified as a psychologist over 15 years ago and worked both in corporate and private settings to support individuals, couples and groups to rediscover their innate power for productivity, creativity and service.

Today, the clinic has evolved to offer a broader range of services, eventually establishing itself as a respected, reputable, and trusted place for healing. It has grown to serve a diverse clientele from over 50 countries, who present life challenges ranging from stress, anxiety and depression, to the specialised sexual and relational ones experienced in silence by many.

We welcome clients from any walk of life, and look forward to continue growing as a valuable service provider to our local and international communities.

Dr Oberdan Marianetti belongs to Dr Oberdan Marianetti in Singapore

Mental Health News