Identifying toxic relationships and abuseToxic relationships often harm our self-esteem and leave us feeling drained of energy. When we learn how to recognize toxic relationships and abuse we can move away from them. If we have a history of being abused, we may not recognise that we are caught in a cycle of abuse. ...
Date Posted: June 21, 2018
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Humans have emotions for a reason. Some emotions keep us safe, social and on a certain life path. Anger is an emotion that tells others, "don't mess with me," or "I want to feel in control." Anger helps us to feel powerful and it can motivate us. Anger is not a problem, but how we react to it can be.1. ...
Jun 21
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Control Issues, ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
If you have been abused as a child or as an adult, you might feel worthless. If as a child you underwent neglect, rejection or abuse from your parents, confidence might be harder to find. A child who has experienced verbal abuse and neglect will begin to believe that they are worthless and horrible. The damage from abuse might ...
Jun 21
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Aggression & Violence, Mental ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Parenting is both a rewarding and challenging task. There is no such thing as a perfect parent; just a well informed good enough parent. Certain parenting behaviours that have been passed down from generation to generation have dire consequences. The current generation has pressure from all directions, academically and ...
Jun 21
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Child ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
Standing in the train or lift can be a scrutinising experience in Hong Kong, as well as other international cities. We all like to look at our peers to socially compare ourselves to them, and them to us. This increases or decreases our false sense of self. The false sense of self is the self that is attached to external validation, meaning ...
Jun 21
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...
Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel
We live in a fast-paced age. The world is a smaller place because of technology, internet, and airplanes through our skies.This advancement has lots of pluses. The speed, the technology, helps. Speaking for myself, I can conduct sessions anywhere I am to attend to those from varied places or ...
Mar 26
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Dina seemed incapable of receiving compliments. In our “chit chat” during session, after I’d affirmed her accomplishments and good looks, she started avoiding eye contact by staring at the floor or holding her self tightly.
Feb 17
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Depression, Emotional Abuse
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Emotional abuse is one form of abuse which people can experience in a relationship. Though emotional abuse doesn’t leave physical scars, it generally has a huge impact on victim’s confidence, self-esteem and can lead them to depression and suicide. However, if you are being ...
Jul 7
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Relationships & Marriage
Written By:
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo
You may ask, “How can I be responsible when I’m the one abused, hurt, or ‘sinned against’?”
Dec 3
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
I’m reminded of Aldous Huxley, a noted writer-philosopher. He was dying. At his deathbed, he was asked what words and wisdom he would like to tell and leave to the world. He replied, “I wish people would be kinder to each other.”What does “kindness” mean? Here’s ...
Sep 27
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Addictions, Marital Counseling
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
"There is no incurable illness, only incurable people.” That’s Dr. Bernie Siegel in his book “Love, Medicine, & Miracles,” with a subtitle “lessons learned about self-healing from a surgeon’s experience with exceptional patients.”That statement ...
Jun 1
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Addictions, Relationships & ...
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
As I write this, I'm in a fitness first gym taking drinks in the lounge area. The place is so pleasant with lots of wonderful facilities and staff. Yet when I'm on the treadmill or walking around thinking of seeking assistance, I'd sort of catastrophize: "What if the treadmill ...
Feb 10
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Child Development, Parenting
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Professionally and personally, my heart goes out to parents and children who have become heartbroken and "alienated" in their relationship. I am grateful to families - both parents and children - who have shared with me their painful experiences in our sessions together. They are just too ...
Aug 19
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Parenting
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Let me tell you something that might sound radical to you: we all live in an "addicted society." Society contributes a huge part into the corruption, dysfunction, or breakdown of individuals and families in our world. Would that be so difficult for you to grasp?One time, I was speaking to ...
Jul 14
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Addictions, Spirituality
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
It took a while. But Helen was finally able to let go of her sexually addicted, unfaithful, and abusive boyfriend. To help Helen with her growing depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, I got her in touch with reality and to see what really is. She finally realized that she was victimized by a ...
Jun 12
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse, Personality problems
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Again this afternoon, like in many of my counseling sessions, a hurting Mom cried. She said, "My husband and I have invested much time and money on our son, and he's still violent and in alcoholism and drug addiction." This Mom's energy and hope are progressively being siphoned to ...
May 22
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Parenting, Teenage Issues
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist