Why do I feel like I am suffocating around my parents?

From time to time, an adult will seek my help because they feel like they can’t breathe around their parents.  The feeling of not being able to breathe could be from anxiety or panic.  Sometimes, we hold our breath without thinking when we are waiting for something to happen, when ...

Aug 28

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Why Do People Lash Out?

Lashing out can happen for multiple reasons.  Sometimes the person who lashes out feels a temporary release of stress and anger, but might later feel embarrassed or ashamed.  Lashing out can be a response to past trauma, a self-protective response or a way to control and devalue others. ...

Aug 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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How can I help my partner overcome past abuse?

If you are in a relationship with someone who has been abused, it can be confusing and sometimes frustrating.  If the person has not been able to resolve the abuse in their mind, they might act in ways that push you away. They might lash out when they are feeling anxious, accuse you of things ...

Aug 17

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Understanding Narcissism

 In a certain sense, all of us are born "narcissists." We each carry remnants of our infancy or childhood narcissism. Nothing is as real to us as we feel like the center of the world.

Aug 7

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse, Family Problems

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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My last relationship was abusive, and now, I struggle to feel safe in ...

 After being abused by someone you thought you could trust ...

Aug 7

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Will it ever get any better?

Life includes a certain amount of suffering. Some of the sufferings include rejection, failure, loss and trauma.  When we are going through a difficult time, it can be hard to see the light. When we are depressed or sad, we can only remember the depressed or sad times.  It can be ...

Aug 5

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Depression, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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The Financially-Dependent Wife and Tough Love

 ”Straighten up or leave,” says Mary to her husband Don. He left. And things still worked out beautifully for her.

Jul 13

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Infidelity, Marital Counseling

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Must Illness or Trauma Fail You?

 In Western medicine, healing is equated only with health. Superficially, it sounds common sense. Logical. Obvious.

Dec 11

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adult psychological development, ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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The #1 Cause of Loneliness

Rita was one confused teenager. After she got sexually molested in school, she won't talk with her mother or sisters.She said, "My Mom can't handle it. What can my sisters do?" Even with her closest friends, she'd rather not talk about it.Over time, the "secret" took ...

Jul 27

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Relationships & Marriage, ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Understanding Trauma

Trauma occurs when an accident, abuse, loss or something unpredictable causes us to feel emotions such as intense fear, shock, denial and distress. For the most part, people might have trauma reactions such as nightmares, hypervigilance or physical symptoms after a tragic or dangerous event that heals by itself after a short period. However, ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adult psychological development, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Identifying Toxic People

Identifying toxic relationships and abuseToxic relationships often harm our self-esteem and leave us feeling drained of energy. When we learn how to recognize toxic relationships and abuse we can move away from them. If we have a history of being abused, we may not recognise that we are caught in a cycle of abuse. After reading this article, ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Why Am I So Angry?

Humans have emotions for a reason.  Some emotions keep us safe, social and on a certain life path.  Anger is an emotion that tells others, "don't mess with me," or "I want to feel in control." Anger helps us to feel powerful and it can motivate us.  Anger is not a problem, but how we react to it can be.1. ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Control Issues, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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