Should You Blame Your Mother?

Where do all our problems come?That’s a question once asked of me by TV host, Mel Tiangco, in a live telecast over at GMA7.She also asked about the “mother wound” in relation to the case her program presented during the show.Psychologist and author Dr. David Stoop mentions a ...

Sep 14

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adult psychological development, ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Healing from abusive childhood experiences

When Sam was a child, his father would drink and then come home and smash the house.  From his bed, he could hear his mother crying.  His mother would crawl into Sam’s bed at night and cry.  Sam was confused.  He didn’t know how to help his mother, and he felt scared ...

May 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Emotional Abuse, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Exhaustion

Erin was a corporate lawyer who worked ten-hour days, five days a week.  On the weekend she would try to make time for herself but instead found herself worrying about work, answering emails and going over paperwork.  By the time Sunday came, she couldn’t get out of bed; she could ...

May 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Anxiety, Depression, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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EMDR for anxiety

As uncomfortable as anxiety can be, we all need a little bit of anxiety ...

Apr 15

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Caregiver Issues / Stress, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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The harm in not feeling good enough

When people feel like they are not good enough, they harm themselves inadvertently.  This harm can look like not taking care of their hygiene ...

Jan 30

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Depression, Ending a ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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I’m so confused, should I stay or should I go?

Sometimes people find themselves confused in relationships.  They might wonder should I be with this person? Am I a good partner?  Is my relationship toxic?  What should I take responsibility for and what shouldn’t I take responsibility for?  If you are asking yourself ...

Jan 30

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Ending a relationship issues, Post ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Do You Need a “Toxic People Detox?”

The truth is, toxic people are a part of life.They’re everywhere - our neighborhoods, offices, governments, hospitals, schools, and sadly, often right among our family members, relatives and friends.A number of qualities characterize them and their typical toxic pattern of attacking or ...

Dec 30

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Bullying, Emotional Abuse

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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What Do I Do With My Mistakes?

 The Roman philosopher Cicero once wrote, “Man is liable to error, and it is a fool who continues in error.”

Dec 11

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Depression, Marital Counseling

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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The psychological symptoms of bullying

 Lily was always a quiet and sensitive teen. She was compassionate and cared deeply for others. Her high empathy made her susceptible to falling into rescuer mode with others less fortunate than her.  Her new friend Ariane was popular ...

Nov 27

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Bullying, Parenting, Post Traumatic ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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I am always afraid that people are going to leave me

Max grew up as an only child with a single mother.  Max’s father left his mother before he was born.  Because of this, his mother had to work long hours to provide for both of them.  He often felt like he had to protect her, and that she was unable to be there for him ...

Oct 16

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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It’s not always a good idea to stay together for the children

David and Ann have been married for twelve years and have three children under the age of ten.  David works long hours and comes back home stressed and tired. David and Ann have frequent arguments, and David becomes physically and verbally abusive towards Ann and sometimes the children.  ...

Oct 14

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Processing Failure Effectively

 Much deterioration in therapy happens when failure is not processed effectively.

Sep 1

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adult psychological development, ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Why do I feel like I am suffocating around my parents?

From time to time, an adult will seek my help because they feel like they can’t breathe around their parents.  The feeling of not being able to breathe could be from anxiety or panic.  Sometimes, we hold our breath without thinking when we are waiting for something to happen, when ...

Aug 28

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Why Do People Lash Out?

Lashing out can happen for multiple reasons.  Sometimes the person who lashes out feels a temporary release of stress and anger, but might later feel embarrassed or ashamed.  Lashing out can be a response to past trauma, a self-protective response or a way to control and devalue others. ...

Aug 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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