How Can I Express How I Really Feel?

Sometimes we might have a difficult time expressing how we feel because we are afraid of how others will react or what they might think of us. We might have a hard time expressing how we feel because we are not sure what it is we are feeling. Emotions can be complex. Part of it might be because we tell ourselves that how we feel doesn't ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adult psychological development, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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Understanding Trauma

Trauma occurs when an accident, abuse, loss or something unpredictable causes us to feel emotions such as intense fear, shock, denial and distress. For the most part, people might have trauma reactions such as nightmares, hypervigilance or physical symptoms after a tragic or dangerous event that heals by itself after a short period. However, ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adult psychological development, ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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Identifying Toxic People

Identifying toxic relationships and abuseToxic relationships often harm our self-esteem and leave us feeling drained of energy. When we learn how to recognize toxic relationships and abuse we can move away from them. If we have a history of being abused, we may not recognise that we are caught in a cycle of abuse. After reading this article, ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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Getting through a break-up or divorce

Life can be especially lonely if you are going through a recent break-up or divorce.  Break-ups and divorce sometimes break our hearts and leave us feeling depressed or lonely. An unexpected or sudden break-up or divorce can be an end to our hopes and dreams for a future with our loved one. We might find ourselves having a difficult time ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Attachment Issues, Divorce / ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Speaking To Your Child About Divorce

Divorce is a difficult situation for adults, let alone children and teenagers.  Parents who are separating might be experiencing their own grief, sadness and anxiety.  As the adult, it is important that you are able to be the secure base for your child or teenager during this time.  Children are intuitive and can sense the mood of ...

Jun 21

Categories: Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Child Development, Divorce / Divorce ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Why Am I So Angry?

Humans have emotions for a reason.  Some emotions keep us safe, social and on a certain life path.  Anger is an emotion that tells others, "don't mess with me," or "I want to feel in control." Anger helps us to feel powerful and it can motivate us.  Anger is not a problem, but how we react to it can be.1. ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Control Issues, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Meditation into the Unknown

This script can be used word for word or can be improvised.  Feel free to add your own meditation practices into this for your own personalised experience. Feel free to sit with each pause or line for as long or as little as you need.A Meditation Into the UnknownBreathe, breathe in and out. Calm your mind, calm your body through your breath.

Jun 21

Categories: Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Meditation, Mindfulness ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Am I sad or depressed?

Sadness is an emotion that slows us down and teaches us that we made a mistake, or that something or someone hurt us.  Usually, when we are sad, we are still able to get out of bed and maintain our daily routines.  Depression is a deeper emotion that often feels like darkness or heaviness.  We find ourselves unable to go about our ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Depression, Emotional ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Overcoming Rejection

Being rejected is a sign that you have pushed yourself out of your comfort zone and have tried to achieve something.  Rejection can sting and hurt our self-esteem if we don't manage it properly.  We can use rejection to learn and gain what we originally set out for. Here are some pointers on how you can use rejection to your ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Finding your confidence after abuse

If you have been abused as a child or as an adult, you might feel worthless.  If as a child you underwent neglect, rejection or abuse from your parents, confidence might be harder to find.  A child who has experienced verbal abuse and neglect will begin to believe that they are worthless and horrible.  The damage from abuse might ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Aggression & Violence, Mental ...

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Dr Monica Borschel

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Perception is Everything

Everyone views the world through the lens of their own reality.  In a sense, we all live in a different universe.  Though we may be experiencing the same events, the way we interpret the event may be different.  When we are depressed, anxious or grieving, we have a tendency to forget that things will get better.  When all you ...

Jun 21

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Adult psychological ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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The Little Details Of Parenting

Parenting is both a rewarding and challenging task.  There is no such thing as a perfect parent; just a well informed good enough parent.  Certain parenting behaviours that have been passed down from generation to generation have dire consequences.  The current generation has pressure from all directions, academically and ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Child ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Connecting Through Play

People are social and long for human connection.  This connection includes the knowledge that you are seen and heard, and that you are respected and appreciated for who you are.  Children also need human connection; we can connect with them through play.  Play is a child’s way to innovate, problem solve and relax.  When ...

Jun 21

Categories: Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Child Development, Parenting

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Increasing Self-Confidence

Standing in the train or lift can be a scrutinising experience in Hong Kong, as well as other international cities. We all like to look at our peers to socially compare ourselves to them, and them to us. This increases or decreases our false sense of self.  The false sense of self is the self that is attached to external validation, meaning ...

Jun 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

Written By:
Dr Monica Borschel

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Love and Attraction

Attraction is both physical and psychological.Psychologically we may be attracted to people for many reasons. We tend to be attracted to people who: have the same or complete opposite personality traits as we do, seem familiar because we see them often, or remind us of one of our parents. We may also be psychologically attracted to certain people ...

Jun 21

Categories: Attachment Issues, Love addiction, Relationships & Marriage

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Dr Monica Borschel

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