Rebuilding After Affair Trauma

Susan has been cheated on by her husband. She is broken. It's so difficult for her to make it through each day. She struggles with finding energy to get out of bed each morning. Physically, she is very listless, trying to hold her self together. Her recurring post-affair memories and thoughts ...

Feb 18

Categories: Addictions, Couple Counseling, Infidelity

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Anger: You don't have buttons

Many people struggle with what they call an “anger management problem.” What people really mean is that they do not know how to choose differently, in a moment. They are struggling with solving what they ideally want or think should be with what is not happening in reality, and they ...

Feb 16

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Marital Counseling, ...

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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What is Sex?

Many people spend little time thinking about the meaning of sex or the purpose of sex. It is not until you cannot get it or it stops working in your relationship that you really examine it. How we define sex or what we consider to be sex can create problems for couples.Human beings are meaning ...

Feb 16

Categories: Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, Women's Issues

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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Healing Toxic Anger

Many people have habitual and uncontrollable anger. Their anger is selfish. It's an automatic response to things not going their way. It could involve rage, explosion of temper, shouting, verbal abuse, and physical violence.When I met Lito, he was easily enraged and quick to explode at his wife and children. In various situations, even with ...

Feb 13

Categories: Addictions, Aggression & Violence, Anger Management

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Is Gestalt Therapy Ok?

Gestalt Therapy, one of today's popular psychotherapy approaches, is founded by psychotherapist Dr. Fritz Perls. The following well-known Gestalt prayer written by Dr. Perls in the 1960s captures the spirit of this therapeutic approach:"I do my thing and you do your thing, I am not in this ...

Feb 12

Categories: Addictions, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Strengths ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Executive Function: What It Is and Why It Is Important

One of the greatest scientific mysteries is how the human mind/brain functions.  For example, how does a young child control his or her temper? How does a child manage to sit still in school and pay attention to what the teacher is saying? How do we decide what career to pursue, make plans to ...

Feb 5

Categories: Executive Functions

Written By:
Brian Scott

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The Abandoned Baby

Yesterday, an 8-year-old child, Gabrielle, was brought to me. When she was born, her biological father gave her away to a relative. From birth, her biological mother completely abandoned her and never appeared to her up to this day.A number of weeks ago, when Gabrielle found out that her caretakers ...

Jan 30

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Child Development, Parenting

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Daddy, Daddy, can you play with me?

“Daddy, Daddy, can you play with me?” This sentence comes up every now and then from my two wonderful children, age 7 and 5.Both my children were born premature. I remembered when I first laid my eyes on my children; they seemed no bigger than the size of a kitten. Even though they ...

Jan 28

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Child and/or Adolescent ...

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Character and Broken Vows

Nowadays, broken marriage vows have become epidemic with over half of marriages experiencing adultery or divorce. This accounts for increasing numbers of dyfunctional families and traumatized children in our midst in need of help. Broken vows never lead anything good for society.In a counseling ...

Jan 27

Categories: Adult psychological development, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Healing The Parent-Teen Gap

When Dino came with his Mom to see me, I wasn't sure if he was going to get sick, tremble, or shout. He was frozen, unmovable. He refused to speak and looked like Rambo while glaring at his Mom. His eyes flashed a lot of anger while his Mom was telling me their story..The tears of his Mom laid ...

Jan 22

Categories: Family Problems, Parenting, Teenage Issues

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Sexual Addiction As An Illness

Sexual addiction is an illness. It's solitary, dehumanizing, and satisfies only itself. Contrary to love, it's fleeting. It causes people to abuse their bodies. It distances us from our emotions, destroys good feelings about ourselves. It therefore causes people to be broken and alone.Dr. ...

Jan 18

Categories: Addictions, Adult psychological development, Sexual Problems / Sex ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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7 Ways A Therapist Is Worst For You!

Choosing a psychotherapist or counselor is a first step in seeking help. Not all psychotherapists are good therapists. To heal from your emotional or psychological wounds, you need to find and work with the right one for you if your situation calls for structured intervention.Here's my take. ...

Jan 13

Categories: Health / Illness / Medical Issues, Spirituality, Strengths Assessment

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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What is normal Sex?

The number one question people have about sex is “Am I normal?” The second most common question asked is “Is my partner normal?”It is never helpful to frame sex in terms or normal or not normal as if there was so universal standard or universal truth.  The is a wide ...

Jan 13

Categories: Adult psychological development, Coping with Medical Problems, Couple ...

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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Sex Therapy: What is it?

When people are having sexual problems in their marriage one of the things people consider is to find a sex therapist. There are many misconceptions about a sex therapists/therapy and many people confuse a sex therapist with a sex surrogate.Dr. Marty Klien, a nationally and internationally ...

Jan 13

Categories: Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, Sexual Problems ...

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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Psychotherapy for the Poor

Traditional, mainstream psychotherapy is largely "middle class" in nature and practice. It's basic worldview involves conceptions of mental health that promote middle class themes and values. Rationality. Scientific analysis. Work ethic. Control of emotions.  Strategic planning. ...

Jan 11

Categories: Family Problems, Pivotal Response Treatment, Relationships & ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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