Masturbation vs. Relationship Sex, what is the difference? Do you ...

A frequent call I get is a distraught female partner calling me to make an appointment for the couple or her spouse/boyfriend because she caught him using porn (which is code for masturbating himself to porn and not using her). The other frequent call I get is the shamed husband/boyfriend calling ...

May 11

Categories: Couple Counseling, Ending a relationship issues, Marital Counseling, ...

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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Dealing with Betrayals in Your Relationship

Betrayals in relationship change the quality and functioning of the relationship in dramatic ways. Trust is the primary aspect affected as well as the betrayed partner’s sense of safety in the couple. Betrayals bring up many dilemmas for the couple. Few couples have the skills or the ...

May 11

Categories: Couple Counseling, Infidelity, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, ...

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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Are You Loving From A Full Or Empty Bucket?

This week, I received a heartbreaking message from a divorced, 32-year-old Middle Eastern woman I'd call Riza. She is currently remarried after a time of promiscuity from the first divorce and left everything to be with her second husband in a foreign country.After just less than a year of ...

May 10

Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Love addiction, Self-Esteem

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Grieving: How do you cope with loss?

Grieving is painful, and not only for the person grieving, but for the griever's loved ones, family and friends.  Unfortunately in modern society with its emphasis on speed and efficiency, some well-intentioned individuals who otherwise sympathize with the grieving person, may ...

May 8

Categories: Depression, Grief, Loss, Bereavement

Written By:
Brian Scott

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Forgiveness and Mental Health

There was a time when the field of medicine, psychiatry, or even psychology was uncomfortable with looking too closely at the issue of forgiveness. Forgiveness is often perceived as an issue of faith. But today, forgiveness has become a widely studied topic in the mental health clinical field.In ...

Apr 27

Categories: Forgiveness, Relationships & Marriage, Religious Issues

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Codependence and the three A's: Awareness, Acceptance, and Action

I first learned of the three A's, awareness, acceptance, and action from Alanon which is a wonderful self-help group for the family and friends of the alcoholic.  Alanon suggests its members utilize the "Three A's" in dealing with the problems specifically caused by ...

Apr 16

Categories: Codependency / Dependency

Written By:
Brian Scott

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The most important Sex Organ in the Body

Couples struggling with an unsatisfying sex life may blissfully remember the days when they seems to effortlessly fall into bed and enjoy one another sexually. You may also want to recall along with that image how much simplier your life was back then. You didn't have bills, debts, mortgage, ...

Apr 8

Categories: Couple Counseling, Men's Issues, Relationships & Marriage, Sexual ...

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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Do I have a drinking problem? Am I an alcoholic? What is the ...

People drink for all sorts of reason. Some reasons are to socialize, celebrate and relax. Other times people use alcohol as a form of self-medication to help them manage stress, anxiety or to use it to distract them from unpleasant or unhappy situations in their life.Alcohol has a strong effect on ...

Apr 2

Categories: Addictions, Couple Counseling, Men's Issues, Women's Issues, ...

Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA

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Does Short-Term Relief Work?

Short term relief does not last. It can in fact become a separate psychological issue unto itself.When John saw me for help, he has been under psychiatric treatment for over 10 years. Despite the length of his treatment, he remained "stuck" within himself - psychologically, emotionally, ...

Apr 1

Categories: Addictions, Emptiness, Grief, Loss, Bereavement

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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How does one cope with ambiguous loss? The case of the disappeared ...

The continuing confusion and lack of definitive information about the whereabouts of Malaysian Airline MH370 for over two weeks (when this post is written), has focused the world's attention on the suffering of the family and friends of the 239 missing passengers. It is difficult to even ...

Mar 24

Categories: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Support Groups

Written By:
Brian Scott

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'The times are a changing'. How Art Therapy Can Help Children And ...

"The times are a changing" is a Bob Dylan anthem about change and going through change is an important part of everyone's development.Do we choose to reject it and build walls around us or do we embrace and use the wind of change such as in the Chinese proverb above.Going through ...

Mar 15

Categories: Academic Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Art Therapy, ...

Written By:
Andrew C Wright (AthR), HCPC registered (UK), BAAT (UK).

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Money and Mental Health

Money is neutral but it's a proven drug that can destroy lives.This therapy insight has not come easily for me. I too am exposed to a pervading culture where we are all in. A culture that puts so much stock on the temporary. To find security in money. To fall in love with possessions, the ...

Mar 14

Categories: Addictions, Family Problems, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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Men In Therapy

It's clear to me that Robert started therapy because of "external pressure." He was having a severe separation crisis with his wife, Anna, who demanded counseling intervention. Anna disappeared from their home because she couldn't endure her husband's verbal and emotional ...

Mar 8

Categories: Adult psychological development, Men's Issues, Relationships & ...

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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How Journaling can Change your Life

Journaling is a way to improve your understanding of yourself. It provides a platform on which you can stand so that you can observe yourself. Self-knowledge, including discovering your strengths and weaknesses, your likes and dislikes is essential for making life decisions and for self-fulfilment. ...

Mar 5

Categories: Addictions, Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Life Purpose / ...

Written By:
Brian Scott

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Problem Children, Problem Parents

Parenthood in our society is more an idea of how to “raise kids.” There are problem children, but not problem parents. Yet the truth and reality of the matter is, parenthood needs to be more the growth and development of parents.I’m reminded of a sobbing mother who came over ...

Feb 25

Categories: Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Family Problems, Parenting

Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

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