Last weekend while breaking my fast in a fine hotel restaurant, a young Caucasian couple made a very noticeable entrance and sat at a nearby table. Both were at least 6 feet tall (tall by Asian standards), and attractive looking. She wore short shorts and a clinging tank-top, revealing her well tanned bronze skin. He wore a sleeveless shirt so his muscular arms, both of which were covered with eye catching tattoos, were plainly visible. His presentation was topped off with a blond mohawk haircut.
As two waiters rushed to attend to them, I got the feeling they quite enjoyed the attention and were completely oblivious to the fact that they were dressed in a manner quite inappropriate for Asian culture!
Date Posted: September 9, 2011
Categories: Personality problems, Self-Love, Sensitivity to Criticism
Those of you who are regular readers of this blog know that its dominant theme is to help those who have been abused, traumatized, or neglected in childhood and consequently experience a variety of psychological (and sometimes physiological) problems in adulthood. These individuals are variously referred to as suffering from co-dependency, complex PTSD, developmental trauma or borderline personality disorder.
As emphasized by workers in the field of co-dependency, such as Pia Mellody and John Bradshaw, one of the main ways we can recover from the distressing effects of childhood abuse is by learning how to love the self. This seemingly easy task for most people is one of the most difficult tasks of recovery for those suffering from developmental trauma. For this reason codas need some structured steps in order to learn how to love their Self. I hope to provide here a brief outline of how to do so using the three A’s of awareness, acceptance, and action.
Date Posted: June 7, 2011
Categories: Codependency / Dependency, Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Love