6 Tips to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

Posted on November 11, 2015

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There's nothing really wrong to be a pleasant co-worker and a leader who helps others be successful. In fact, individuals labeled as “people-pleasers” are often kind and have honorable intentions. They usually accept heavier workloads, expend time and energy to enhance team morale, and care deeply for their company and co-workers. These are all positive attributes, so it might be difficult to see how looking out for others’ happiness could possibly have a negative impact on your career and professional happiness — but it can.

For example, to please others, you may go along with colleagues’ subpar ideas, even when you have a better solution. You might agree to unreasonable requests, like working late nights and weekends to cover for co-workers. As a result, you may feel overwhelmed, overworked, and unappreciated for all of the extra support you provide — and that can lead to frustration and burnout.

Conversely, the ability to assert yourself appropriately, take pride in your ideas, and prioritize your own needs can help you excel in your career.

While it can be difficult to break this habit, it isn’t impossible. Here’s how to overcome people-pleasing tendencies and get back on track to career success:

1. Admit and commit to change.
2. Ask others for help.
3. Make it an official goal.
4. Practice saying no.
5. Take baby steps.
6. Realize you are not alone.

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Category(s):Self-Care / Self Compassion, Workplace Issues

Source material from Psych Central


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