Understanding the Trauma of the Divorce Process

Divorce can be traumatic ...

Mar 7

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Child and/or Adolescent ...

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Is my marriage headed for divorce?

Marriage can feel like the best and worst thing that ever happened to you. It is common for married partners to have some form of resentment. Often these resentments are centered around the division of labor, intimacy, parenting and finances. These resentments can lead to anger, anxiety, loss of ...

Nov 1

Categories: Couple Counseling, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Marital Counseling, ...

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We Didn’t Get Married, Do I Have Any Parental Rights?

Gary and Sara had been dating for around a year when Sara became pregnant. Gary could not have been happier. He told all his friends and family that he would be a father.  Gary decided that he wanted to ask Sara to marry him. He bought the ring and prepared the time and event that he would ...

Oct 26

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

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The Biology of Grief

After Marissa lost her husband, she often felt stuck in a dream. Her colleagues would speak to her, but she could only hear a part of what was said. Marissa could not sleep at night; she felt anxious about loss. She lost her husband in a tragic accident and was still in shock. She felt confused; ...

Oct 12

Categories: Bereavement, Caregiver Issues / Stress, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, ...

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How Can I Get Away from My Narcissistic Partner?

Before you consider leaving a narcissist, you must be one hundred percent certain that you are done. The reason is that when you try to go, they will beg ...

Sep 29

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a ...

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Overcoming the multiple losses of your divorce

Before marriage, people often fantasize about living a romantic and happy life together. During marriage, people learn to adapt to their partner. Part of this adaptation is to form a new identity together. This identity can look like husband, wife, mother, father, nurturer, and provider. As you ...

Sep 13

Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a relationship issues, Grief, ...

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Betrayed and Blindsided: How to Heal and Trust Again

Eric felt his legs buckle. He was in shock. Discovering that his wife of twelve years, Misty, had been leading a double life left him reeling. She had another relationship and hobbies he was entirely unaware of. He had believed he knew her intimately. With this revelation, Eric began to question ...

Aug 23

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

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Why divorce feels traumatic and what you can do about it

Written by Monica Borschel, PhD and Christopher Meyer, Family Law PractitionerDivorce carries a lot of grief with it. There is a possible loss of time with your children, your partner, parts of your identity, and your possessions. On top of the grief, there can be some trauma. The trauma can be ...

Aug 1

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Complex PTSD, Divorce / Divorce ...

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My Child is Resisting Me As A Parent. What Can I Do?

Children resist their parents for many reasons. Sometimes they might feel like they need to protect the other parent; they are overly stressed, rebellious, feel abandoned, or ashamed. Sometimes one parent will actively work to turn the child against the other parent.When a child’s separation ...

Jul 26

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Blended Family Issues, Child and/or ...

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Navigating the highs and lows of solo fatherhood

Written by Monica Borschel, PhD and family law attorney Angelo C. Banks, JDBeing a single dad can be fulfilling, exhausting, and lonely. There might be times when you are so tired you don’t think that you can carry on. You might feel guilty when you want to do something for yourself. You ...

Jul 11

Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Emotional Intelligence, Men's Issues, ...

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Reasons why you shouldn’t be offended by a prenup

Written by Monica Borschel, PhD and Deveney Wells-GibsonA prenuptial agreement before marriage can make someone feel secure or insecure. Understandably so. Prenuptial Agreements are still taboo, with most believing that Prenups are only for protection against divorce. Many believe that if one ...

Jul 9

Categories: Attachment Issues, Couple Counseling, Marital Counseling, Pre-Marital ...

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The Collateral Damage of Parental Alienation

Written by Monica Borschel, Ph.D. and Charles Kronzek, Michigan Trial AttorneyParental alienation is the deliberate or accidental turning of your children against the other parent. Deliberate alienation is badmouthing the other parent, family, ethnicity, culture, or religion. Part of the alienation ...

Jun 6

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life ...

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Are You or Your Ex-Spouse Considering Relocating with Your Children ...

Written by Monica Borschel and Lisa Demonte Cervone

Jun 6

Categories: Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

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How to start getting comfortable with saying no

Saying no and setting boundaries can be uncomfortable. You might have had experiences where saying no leads to revenge, punishment, or rejection. Having had too many of these experiences might make you anxious when having difficult conversations. In addition, you might be afraid of conflict because ...

May 9

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Attachment Issues, Blended ...

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Domestic Violence – Psychologist and Prosecutor for Victims and ...

Written by Monica Borschel, Ph.D. and Special Private Prosecutor for victims and family law attorney Brian Faucett.A yearly estimate of ten million ...

Apr 3

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Child and/or Adolescent Issues, ...

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Blog Writer:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships. As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery. Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma. I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner. I can help you develop new attachment strategies that will allow you to form deeper connections and bonds with those around you. And, if you have children, I can also assist you in establishing secure attachments with both parents, which can be especially helpful in cases of separation or divorce. I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching. These tools, combined with my extensive knowledge and experience in the field, enable me to offer you the guidance and support you need to recover from past traumas and build healthy relationships. My approach to therapy is empathetic, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. Every person can grow, and thrive. I am committed to helping you achieve your goals. So, whether you are struggling with relationship issues, divorce, abuse, attachment traumas, or other challenges, I am here to help you find the peace and comfort you deserve. Email me at info@doctormonicaborschel.com or call the MindnLife Clinic at 852 2521 4668