The psychological symptoms of bullying

 Lily was always a quiet and sensitive teen. She was compassionate and cared deeply for others. Her high empathy made her susceptible to falling into rescuer mode with others less fortunate than her.  Her new friend Ariane was popular ...

Nov 27

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Bullying, Parenting, Post Traumatic ...

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How can I explain death to my child?

Death is a difficult concept for adults to grasp, let alone children.  However, children as young as four can understand finality ...

Nov 14

Categories: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Parenting

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The art of psychological flexibility

Max has a constant desire to be in control.  When he is not in control, he does not feel safe.  Because of this need to be in control, Max can be quite rigid.  This rigidity has taken a toll on his relationships, both personally and professionally. Others have become angry ...

Nov 13

Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Life Purpose / ...

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My child is afraid of so many things

Anxiety is a normal emotion that helps to motivate us. Too much anxiety, however, can cause distress in the form of excessive worry, excessive drive to the point of exhaustion, panic and intense fear of failure and rejection. Children with anxiety ...

Nov 13

Categories: Anxiety, Parenting

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I don’t have time to decompress

Cynthia is a single mom of two active boys.  To support her children she also needs to work.  She feels guilty ...

Oct 23

Categories: Caregiver Issues / Stress, Relaxation techniques, Stress Management

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I am always afraid that people are going to leave me

Max grew up as an only child with a single mother.  Max’s father left his mother before he was born.  Because of this, his mother had to work long hours to provide for both of them.  He often felt like he had to protect her, and that she was unable to be there for him ...

Oct 16

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress ...

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What if people are judging me?

The worry of what others think ...

Oct 14

Categories: Anxiety, Relationships & Marriage, Social Anxiety / Phobia, ...

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It’s not always a good idea to stay together for the children

David and Ann have been married for twelve years and have three children under the age of ten.  David works long hours and comes back home stressed and tired. David and Ann have frequent arguments, and David becomes physically and verbally abusive towards Ann and sometimes the children.  ...

Oct 14

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a ...

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What it feels like to have PTSD

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder feels like you are in constant survival mode.  There are days when the darkness overcomes you, but you’re not sure why.  Your muscles are often sore and tense because they are preparing for fight or flight.  You feel paranoid that something wrong ...

Sep 25

Categories: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD

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How can I set boundaries with my teenager?

Setting boundaries ...

Sep 18

Categories: Emotional Intelligence, Family Problems, Oppositional & Defiant ...

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How can I stay present with my family?

While commuting home, you realise that you still have unread emails and phone calls to make.  At the same time, you are wondering if the kids made it back from school and what you will have for dinner.  Earlier today, your client got upset, which in turn made your manager upset.  ...

Sep 11

Categories: Family Problems, Parenting, Relationships & Marriage

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Do I really need to love myself before I can find love?

For the most part, people would like to find a healthy and loving relationship.  People who have had complicated relationships in the past might be confused about what a healthy relationship is.  As they are searching for love, friends and family might say things like, “you have to ...

Sep 4

Categories: Anxiety, Attachment Issues, Relationships & Marriage

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Why do I feel like I am suffocating around my parents?

From time to time, an adult will seek my help because they feel like they can’t breathe around their parents.  The feeling of not being able to breathe could be from anxiety or panic.  Sometimes, we hold our breath without thinking when we are waiting for something to happen, when ...

Aug 28

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Emotional ...

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Why Do People Lash Out?

Lashing out can happen for multiple reasons.  Sometimes the person who lashes out feels a temporary release of stress and anger, but might later feel embarrassed or ashamed.  Lashing out can be a response to past trauma, a self-protective response or a way to control and devalue others. ...

Aug 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Emotional ...

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How can I help my partner overcome past abuse?

If you are in a relationship with someone who has been abused, it can be confusing and sometimes frustrating.  If the person has not been able to resolve the abuse in their mind, they might act in ways that push you away. They might lash out when they are feeling anxious, accuse you of things ...

Aug 17

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) ...

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Blog Writer:

Dr Monica Borschel

Dr. Borschel’s attachment-based psychodynamic therapy and guided meditative practices enable her clients to find healing within themselves. In so doing, she can help adults, teens, and children to overcome neglect, emotional, verbal, physical abuse, and child abuse. Furthermore, as an attachment specialist, she also helps individuals understand relationship patterns which prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. She uses mindfulness practices and positive psychology to reduce anxiety, insomnia, depression and promote confidence and self-esteem.