What if people are judging me?

The worry of what others think ...

Oct 14

Categories: Anxiety, Relationships & Marriage, Social Anxiety / Phobia, ...

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It’s not always a good idea to stay together for the children

David and Ann have been married for twelve years and have three children under the age of ten.  David works long hours and comes back home stressed and tired. David and Ann have frequent arguments, and David becomes physically and verbally abusive towards Ann and sometimes the children.  ...

Oct 14

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Ending a ...

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What it feels like to have PTSD

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder feels like you are in constant survival mode.  There are days when the darkness overcomes you, but you’re not sure why.  Your muscles are often sore and tense because they are preparing for fight or flight.  You feel paranoid that something wrong ...

Sep 25

Categories: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD

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How can I set boundaries with my teenager?

Setting boundaries ...

Sep 18

Categories: Emotional Intelligence, Family Problems, Oppositional & Defiant ...

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How can I stay present with my family?

While commuting home, you realise that you still have unread emails and phone calls to make.  At the same time, you are wondering if the kids made it back from school and what you will have for dinner.  Earlier today, your client got upset, which in turn made your manager upset.  ...

Sep 11

Categories: Family Problems, Parenting, Relationships & Marriage

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Do I really need to love myself before I can find love?

For the most part, people would like to find a healthy and loving relationship.  People who have had complicated relationships in the past might be confused about what a healthy relationship is.  As they are searching for love, friends and family might say things like, “you have to ...

Sep 4

Categories: Anxiety, Attachment Issues, Relationships & Marriage

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Why do I feel like I am suffocating around my parents?

From time to time, an adult will seek my help because they feel like they can’t breathe around their parents.  The feeling of not being able to breathe could be from anxiety or panic.  Sometimes, we hold our breath without thinking when we are waiting for something to happen, when ...

Aug 28

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Emotional ...

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Why Do People Lash Out?

Lashing out can happen for multiple reasons.  Sometimes the person who lashes out feels a temporary release of stress and anger, but might later feel embarrassed or ashamed.  Lashing out can be a response to past trauma, a self-protective response or a way to control and devalue others. ...

Aug 21

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anger Management, Emotional ...

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How can I help my partner overcome past abuse?

If you are in a relationship with someone who has been abused, it can be confusing and sometimes frustrating.  If the person has not been able to resolve the abuse in their mind, they might act in ways that push you away. They might lash out when they are feeling anxious, accuse you of things ...

Aug 17

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) ...

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My last relationship was abusive, and now, I struggle to feel safe in ...

 After being abused by someone you thought you could trust ...

Aug 7

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, ...

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Escaping Everyday Stress

Stress is both a blessing and a curse. We need enough stress to motivate us to get out of bed in the morning and accomplish our goals. However, too much pressure can damage our mental and physical health. Finding balance with family, work and other relationships can be a challenge if you are ...

Aug 5

Categories: Stress Management

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Conflict Management 101

Sometimes we might find ourselves in high-pressure situations with our spouse or co-workers, which can lead to heated arguments and conflict. When we feel under attack, it is easy to become defensive and want to counterattack. Here is a quick guide to managing conflict.The person you are in ...

Aug 5

Categories: Communication Disorders Problems, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, ...

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Will it ever get any better?

Life includes a certain amount of suffering. Some of the sufferings include rejection, failure, loss and trauma.  When we are going through a difficult time, it can be hard to see the light. When we are depressed or sad, we can only remember the depressed or sad times.  It can be ...

Aug 5

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Anxiety, Depression, Emotional ...

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I Don't know who I am unless people tell me who I am.

We live in a world with instant validation or instant invalidation, thanks to social media.  If we compare ourselves to what we see on social media, we might feel bad about ourselves or our own lives.  The key here is to remember that people only post what they want you to see or believe ...

Aug 5

Categories: Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Confidence, Self-Criticism, ...

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Blog Writer:

Dr Monica Borschel

Dr. Borschel’s attachment-based psychodynamic therapy and guided meditative practices enable her clients to find healing within themselves. In so doing, she can help adults, teens, and children to overcome neglect, emotional, verbal, physical abuse, and child abuse. Furthermore, as an attachment specialist, she also helps individuals understand relationship patterns which prevent them from developing or maintaining healthy relationships. She uses mindfulness practices and positive psychology to reduce anxiety, insomnia, depression and promote confidence and self-esteem.