How To Love Yourself

"We cannot give what we do not have."  That's what author Walter Trobish asserts in his book "Love Yourself." It also echoes Jesus' words in Scripture about receiving and giving. We can only possess and give to others what is real inside of us.In psychological ...

Oct 13

Categories: Personality problems, Self-Care / Self Compassion, Self-Love

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Loneliness: What You Need

Several months ago, a British man came to see me with his Filipina wife. There I felt the heaviest weights their hearts can endure. After being shown indisputable evidences of her affair with a younger man, the wife hurriedly walked out. Tears flowing from his eyes as a flooding river in the night, ...

Sep 16

Categories: Ending a relationship issues, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Infidelity

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Art Therapy Through Chess

Yesterday, during a break in my hospital group session, I was interviewed by television network GMA 7 State of the Nation of Jessica Soho on the subject of "Art Therapy." I commented to the reporter that art (i.e. drawing, writing, sculpture, dance, music, singing etc.) is an expressive ...

Aug 31

Categories: Adult psychological development, Aggression & Violence, Art ...

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Alienated Parents, Alienated Children

Professionally and personally, my heart goes out to parents and children who have become heartbroken and "alienated" in their relationship. I am grateful to families - both parents and children - who have shared with me their painful experiences in our sessions together. They are just too ...

Aug 19

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Parenting

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Society and Psychopathology

Let me tell you something that might sound radical to you: we all live in an "addicted society." Society contributes a huge part into the corruption, dysfunction, or breakdown of individuals and families in our world. Would that be so difficult for you to grasp?One time, I was speaking to ...

Jul 14

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Addictions, Spirituality

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Do You Have "Betrayal Blindness?"

One time, Mary saw me for counseling. She just checked her husband's emails and social media accounts. To her shock, she discovered that her husband has been having secret multiple sexual relationships with various men in all their 20 years of marriage. Her husband is a gay sex ...

Jul 4

Categories: Addictions, Dependency Problems, Marital Counseling

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Chess Therapy for Mental Health

Chess therapy is now used by numerous psychotherapists and doctors. It has become a popular creative psychotherapy technique in the past 20 years. This therapy has been known to produce positive results with children who have bipolar disorders, depression, ADHD, and neuro-behavioral disorders.Chess ...

Jul 1

Categories: Anger Management, Communication Disorders Problems, Sports Psychology

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Self-Compassion: Holding Your Self Kindly

He didn't see it coming. Around the last rounds of a singing reality contest on TV, I watched Lito so focused and reality was treating him well. The coaches were picking and advancing him. Then, reality slap came in. He was removed from advancing to the semi-final round.Lito saw me right after ...

Jun 25

Categories: Depression, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Self-Care / Self Compassion

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Are You A Victim Of A Jerk?

It took a while. But Helen was finally able to let go of her sexually addicted, unfaithful, and abusive boyfriend. To help Helen with her growing depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, I got her in touch with reality and to see what really is. She finally realized that she was victimized by a ...

Jun 12

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse, Personality problems

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First Steps In Infidelity Treatment

When I saw Tonton, he was severely hurt, depressed, and breaking down. He was in much tears. He just caught his wife cheating again over the internet and seeing the OP (other person).Along the way, he was able to check reality and acknowledge to himself that his wife remained unrepentant of her ...

Jun 7

Categories: Addictions, Ending a relationship issues, Relationships & Marriage

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Abused, Hurting Parents

Again this afternoon, like in many of my counseling sessions, a hurting Mom cried. She said, "My husband and I have invested much time and money on our son, and he's still violent and in alcoholism and drug addiction." This Mom's energy and hope are progressively being siphoned to ...

May 22

Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Parenting, Teenage Issues

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Are You Loving From A Full Or Empty Bucket?

This week, I received a heartbreaking message from a divorced, 32-year-old Middle Eastern woman I'd call Riza. She is currently remarried after a time of promiscuity from the first divorce and left everything to be with her second husband in a foreign country.After just less than a year of ...

May 10

Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Love addiction, Self-Esteem

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Forgiveness and Mental Health

There was a time when the field of medicine, psychiatry, or even psychology was uncomfortable with looking too closely at the issue of forgiveness. Forgiveness is often perceived as an issue of faith. But today, forgiveness has become a widely studied topic in the mental health clinical field.In ...

Apr 27

Categories: Forgiveness, Relationships & Marriage, Religious Issues

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Does Short-Term Relief Work?

Short term relief does not last. It can in fact become a separate psychological issue unto itself.When John saw me for help, he has been under psychiatric treatment for over 10 years. Despite the length of his treatment, he remained "stuck" within himself - psychologically, emotionally, ...

Apr 1

Categories: Addictions, Emptiness, Grief, Loss, Bereavement

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Money and Mental Health

Money is neutral but it's a proven drug that can destroy lives.This therapy insight has not come easily for me. I too am exposed to a pervading culture where we are all in. A culture that puts so much stock on the temporary. To find security in money. To fall in love with possessions, the ...

Mar 14

Categories: Addictions, Family Problems, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance

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Blog Writer:

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at www.drsubida.com.

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines