The Heroes Journey

Published on August 5, 2019

It is probable, that at one point in a person’s life, they will feel stuck or lost.  Feeling stuck or lost can be a result of a major life event, loss or a trauma.  There might be times when we wonder if we are on the right path.  Throughout history and time, there have been stories of heroes who have overcome great odds.  Along the way, the hero must conquer fears to overcome and transform into something wiser and stronger.  Hollywood, religious texts, and mythology tell of great stories of heroes and heroines who defeat evil and succumb to the depths of hell only to conquer their demons and arise into a hero, sage or god.  These stories exaggerate but also exemplify the human experience.  

So how do you shed your fear, tolerate and conquer the frustration and come out as a calmer, wiser, and stronger person?  Here are some ideas to encourage personal growth.

Write a timeline of your life

The timeline can include anything that comes to your mind as being impactful. Look for relationships with others, relationship patterns, rejections, failures, successes, accomplishments, and significant life events.

What sticks out in your timeline?

Can you see how you have overcome obstacles? How are your relationships working or not working?

Resolve what has not been resolved

Is there any shame, regret or other emotions that need to be explored?  Do you need to ask for forgiveness, do you need to reach out to anyone? Do you have any shame?

Is there anything or anyone toxic in your life?

Is there anyone in your life that devalues you?  Are you abusing drugs or alcohol?  Is your work taking all of your time and energy?  Evaluate the toxicity in your life and figure out how to detox.

Express Gratitude

Who has helped and supported you along your journey? Send them a thank you note, be specific on how they supported you.

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Are you feeling a little stuck or lost? If so a professional can help. To set up an appointment with Dr Borschel please contact +852 2521 4668 or email m.borschel@mindnlife.com.

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Category(s):Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD

Written by:

Dr Monica Borschel

Welcome! My passion is to help you find inner peace and emotional comfort within yourself and your relationships.

As social creatures, our relationships significantly shape our happiness, well-being, and sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced relationship-related traumas, which can leave us with emotional scars that require recovery.

Attachment traumas, such as divorce, break-ups, infidelity, neglect, and abuse, can be challenging. As an expert in attachment, loss, and trauma, I have spent many years studying how attachment styles can shift with loss and trauma.

I have seen how healthy relationships can lead to secure attachment and how insecure attachment can create turmoil in our lives. I aim to guide you toward cultivating healthy relationships with yourself, your children, your co-parent, and your romantic partner.

I can help you develop new attachment strategies that will allow you to form deeper connections and bonds with those around you. And, if you have children, I can also assist you in establishing secure attachments with both parents, which can be especially helpful in cases of separation or divorce.

I am originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where I completed my Bachelor of Science in Psychology at The University of Utah. From there, I moved to New York City, earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. I then pursued my Doctorate in Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong. I lived and worked in Hong Kong as a practicing Clinical Psychologist from 2010-2020. I reside in California and am pursuing my Doctorate in Psychology (PsyD) at California Southern University. My training and qualifications include certifications in Brainspotting and High Conflict Coaching.

These tools, combined with my extensive knowledge and experience in the field, enable me to offer you the guidance and support you need to recover from past traumas and build healthy relationships.

My approach to therapy is empathetic, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. Every person can grow, and thrive. I am committed to helping you achieve your goals. So, whether you are struggling with relationship issues, divorce, abuse, attachment traumas, or other challenges, I am here to help you find the peace and comfort you deserve.

Email me at info@doctormonicaborschel.com or call the MindnLife Clinic at 852 2521 4668