One Psychotherapy Moment Stands Out

Published on March 30, 2019

 

One moment in psychotherapy stands out for me: when tears fall from the eyes of a wounded patient.

 

Picture this session. David's emergency appointment. Sublime silence between opening our session and the words that followed.

 

There he related his yearning for his wife whom he just brought into a drug rehab facility. Prior to that he caught her cheating and having sex with different men.

 

Surfaces: tattooed muscular body, over 6 footer, a successful millionaire engineer, very smart and intellectually objective middle-aged man.

 

That's what typically catches my attention so easily. Until the outer appearances begin to peel off.

 

David sobbed profusely. A deep grief and sadness penetrated. I'd learned to get past the surface.

 

He had a lot of energy. David gave it away in tears like vibrating waves passing from him to me.

 

David's tears gave me a headstart on knowing him well. And, the parts of his true self that were hidden.

 

Such few moments in psychotherapy often tell me much more about a patient than months of analysis.

 

Charles Dickens, once wrote in Great Expectations:

 

“Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before - more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle.”

 


Category(s):Addictions, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) / Trauma / Complex PTSD, Stress Management

Written by:

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at www.drsubida.com.

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines

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