Healing Your Self With Reality

Published on January 9, 2016

British poet Thomas Eliot once wrote in 1935, “Human kind can not bear very much reality.” 30 years later, he as well as his loved ones were forced to bear reality. Thomas stopped writing – and breathing. It’s painful but it’s fact.

Reality is a world from which most mentally and emotionally disturbed individuals have escaped. They attempt to avoid facing it head-on through varied means, such as drugs, alcohol, sex, adultery, gambling, or even rage, among others. Reality is a point then to which they must return before health and wholeness is restored. As clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Gary Collins put it, mental health is a “search for reality.”

Let me share a few pieces of thought I have about this significant healing component called “Reality.”

… You heal with reality when you see life as it is. Not what you think it should be. Not what you think others think it should be.

… Reality is your most secure, healthiest place on earth.

… Reality saves you from lostness back to real world of right and wrong, the false and the true.

… You heal with reality when you recognize that you don’t really know as much as you think you know.

… Reality is when you accept the fact that others view life differently and some may actually be right.

… You heal with reality when you learn that you cannot micromanage anyone.

… Reality is when you learn that everyone’s problem is not necessarily yours.

… You heal with reality when you learn that you can’t change everything in the world.


Category(s):Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Adult psychological development, Happiness

Written by:

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist

Dr. Angelo Subida is a clinical psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He is author of books "Inner Healing," "Secrets Of Your Self," "Chess and Life," among others, blogs, and articles. He has appeared frequently as an expert on psychotherapy/life recovery issues on national television, radio broadcasts, print media, and webcasts, including GMA 7, TV 5, ABS CBN 2, Q-11, 700 Club, Radyo Veritas, Inquirer Radio, Smart Parenting Magazine, Business Mirror, among others, and has served as resident therapist/counselor for parents and kid-artists in the highly popular ABS-CBN 2 Voice Kids TV singing reality show. Dr. Subida is an eclectic, multidisciplinary therapist and originator of his own revolutionary high-tech, high-touch counseling plus model. His areas of specialization include parent-child therapy, clinical infidelity treatment, relationship/marital counseling, separation/divorce therapy, anger management, depression, addictions, psychotherapy-spirituality integration, and innovative chess therapy. For more of Dr. Subida, you can find him at www.drsubida.com.

Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist belongs to Dr. Angelo Subida Psychotherapy Clinic in Philippines

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